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well hey my name is sandra and just thought id come in here..hey everyone!..to start off my boyfriend has a daughter by his ex..but here is the problem...it seems like everytime i get happy about having this baby..sooner or later my bf brings out the negatives..like today he said he doesnt no how hes gonna be with his older daughter and then be with our child (when it comes) the same amount of time...and he says he doesnt wanna think about it or anything..i dont have an answer to it.. all i could say is do what u did before...he would see her then see me for a couple of hours..theres really nothing else i could do..i wish he showed that he was exited about it at least once in awhile im excited now about having his baby but i have to keep it all in!..mainly being scared of what he thinks..i dont no what its gonna be like in the future all i no is im gonna be here for my child all the time whether hes here or not...im not even going to worry about anything else..im just sad i really thought he would of been different...i no hes gonna be there for me and the baby but hes just hard to understand i just wanna cry...its hard when thinking that he was really happy about having his daughter but isnt happy at all about this baby i no he doesnt wanna hurt her and neither do i! but i dont no what else to do..there r plenty of other kids that have half brothers and sisters so why is she any different from them? she has 2 older half sisters and one older half brother and they were fine with it..i dont no im lost with everything
First things first...WELCOME TO THE BOARD!! and CONGRATS on
your pregnancy! I hope you have a happy and healthy one.
I'm also due in August with our 2nd.
Don't let anyone lie to you....being a part of a blended family
has its ups and downs. It can be rough at times....
No matter what, now that you're having his child, you are attached to
his daughter. I know that my son will always have his big sissy even
though she's his half-sister.
What's wierd is that I feel just the same way you do right now...
even though I've already had his son. What's bad is that I'm thinking
that if we have a daughter, she'll never live up to my DH's first "baby girl".
I hope that you find it in yourself to talk to him...even though it may be
difficult. I know from my experience that communication is key. If I don't
tell my DH how I feel about a situation, and if it never gets resolved,
I can't blame anyone else but me. KWIM? I know you may be scared and
reluctant to tell BF how you're feeling but your feelings are important.
GOOD LUCK!! and I hope everything works out.