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I think in those situations it's hard for everyone. The older generations aren't sure how to handle a blended family. People become territorial & have their minds made up on how a family SHOULD be or if they are blended, how they are so screwed up when it can be the opposite.
It's a good thing that they want to be involved. Obviously everyone wants to say the right thing & not offend people, but the older generations tend to say things that we wouldn't say, not thinking that it would indeed offend us.
I'd say that you had a good transition experience. Sounds to me like the grandparents care & are good in the kids' lives. I hope it remains that way. In due time, the more exchanges are done w/ you present, the better, it will make you guys more accustomed to one another instead of wondering what to say or what they meant w/ what they said.
well, this was just a one time thing, us dropping her off to them. usually it's me or dh doing the exchange with the mom only (or sometimes mom & stepdad). that's why this was our first time ever meeting these people.
What i think is this ......she said something very nice to you? Why search between the lines as to WHY she said it yes? I would feel happy for it and that's all. I guess we people are so used to the negative that we really have to question 'why' something positive was done/said. That's food for thought.....
" \m/ Now Iím riding through the air
going to where no one dares
on the way Iíll cross the line forevermore \m/ "