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October 26th, 2009, 09:00 AM
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When you go to sleep do you think about what you didn't do today? Do you get up in the morning and figure out what you need to do differently today? Overwhelmed & confused? I know I do, all the time. I feel like I have to please the world. I don't know how to tell someone "no"...that isn't directly involved in my life, yet I can tell the ones that love me "no" w/ ease. That's not who I want to be. Isn't that horrible? We treat strangers better than our family & friends?

Not sure about you, but sometimes I wait for the moment when things in my life will get simple. I realize that at the end of the day we aren't so complicated. We are the ones who added stuff to our movie. At some point we need to be simple, remove the disgusting layers of "stuff" that we don't need, whether that "stuff" is superficial or emotional, sometimes we have to remove that "stuff & reconnect to the simple that is within us.

Thought I'd add this as I've been really looking w/ in myself lately, trying to figure out where my priorities are, who I need to focus on, and that I am only one person. It's hard to be all over the place at once, impossible, yet I think as mothers, wives, SO's, we all try to be, and when we can't do that, we are harder on ourselves. Putting things into perspective doesn't mean you don't care about others, but in the end, it's you that you need to care about, because you, yourself are the only person you can truly depend on. It's time to take care of "us" for a change.




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October 26th, 2009, 09:59 AM
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When you go to sleep do you think about what you didn't do today? Do you get up in the morning and figure out what you need to do differently today? Overwhelmed & confused? I know I do, all the time. I feel like I have to please the world. I don't know how to tell someone "no"...that isn't directly involved in my life, yet I can tell the ones that love me "no" w/ ease. That's not who I want to be. Isn't that horrible? We treat strangers better than our family & friends?
I do the EXACT same thing!!!! And why is it so easy to tell strangers it's ok, and yet can so simply say no to our family and loved ones???

I lay awake at night thinking about what I should have done today, and what needs to be done tomorrow, and how can I be better to make sure everyone else is happy, but NEVER about how I'm going to make sure I'm happy.....
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October 26th, 2009, 11:24 AM
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It's bad when you watch yourself & see how you treat one person vs. another. Like even w/ my DH, I'll watch him talk to his "buddies", he's nice, cool, what ever, then he hangs up & he's back to being "normal" again, grumpy, tired, short. I often point it out to him, he brushes me off. But I see how I do the same thing a lot of the times. Not nearly as much as him, how I feel is how I feel, I tend to tell him that he's bothering me or upsetting me, I don't hide behind a smile.

My only "wish" is that I could say "no" to acquaintances & tell people that I can't stand (regardless of relation to me), that I don't give a rat's behind about them & that I have no use for them. To write me off as I am doing the same. I really need to work on the word "no"...
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October 26th, 2009, 03:09 PM
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I have a "friend" like that... been friends for YEARS.... but as of late, she hasn't treated me well, talks trash about SO and his kids, and yet can't see to tell her to take a long walk off a short peer..... too nice for my own good
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