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August 22nd, 2010, 06:20 PM
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Hi there, I'm a 22 year old stepmother to my husband's two kids, and I'm pregnant with my first baby. We have joint custody of the kids, however, we live cross-country from their mother, so she never sees them, and we may as well have sole custody.

**EDITED** Because I got the sought after advice, and I get hesitant leaving custody info anywhere, never know where the husband's ex wife might be prowling at online.

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August 22nd, 2010, 07:15 PM
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Based off of what you're saying, I wouldn't worry too much about things. If you would feel more comfortable making a log of the calls and their subsequent behavior, then you should do it. She could make all the accusations she wants, and yes, child services may come a check out your home. However, as long as your home is a safe environment for the kids, I wouldn't worry much about it. Child services is prepared to deal with cases where the non custodial parent makes outrageous accusations. They tend to see right through people like that. Just take things one day at a time and deal with issues as they arise. Worrying about every possible outcome will only do damage to your mental well being.
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August 22nd, 2010, 07:22 PM
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Your advice does help, thank you so much for it. I do appreciate it. I wasn't so worried about all of this before I got pregnant. Which makes me think it's the hormones wrapping me up.

**EDITED**Because I got the sought after advice, and I get hesitant leaving custody info anywhere, never know where the husband's ex wife might be prowling at online.

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August 22nd, 2010, 07:33 PM
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Those amount of chores sound like normal household chores to me. Bed time is normal, I would worry more if the bed time was too late. All kids are picky when it comes to vegetables. As long as they're healthy all will be fine. With sd helping out with ss, that's also normal parenting. They would be more concerned if you left the two children alone in the house. It sounds like you're doing just fine in raising the kids. Take your husbands lead on this one. He was married to her before, so he should know exactly how far she would go.


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August 22nd, 2010, 08:07 PM
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Thank you so so so much, I really appreciate your advice.
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August 23rd, 2010, 05:14 PM
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I didn't see your question, but welcome to the board! I'm Rachel, (duh) mom of three and step-mom of two and soon to be grandma to one. My stepsons live here full time and don't see their mom that often.
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