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September 1st, 2010, 04:14 AM
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Hey..My name is sandy (22) mommy to dylan (4) and jessica(almost 3)..Im recently dating a guy name phil (37) and he has 5 boys!..they range from 18,13,9,6,3....This is all new so I havent met them yet but im a little nervous!
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September 1st, 2010, 09:38 AM
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Wow 5 boys! I would be a bit nervous too! I was nervous meeting one girl! Best of luck! If its meant to be it will all work out!
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September 1st, 2010, 11:10 AM
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Good luck Sandy. I can see some potential problems, especially with the older boys being so close in age to you. It's doable, but it'll be a lot of work. Feel free to pop in here with any questions and we'll help as much as we can.
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September 14th, 2010, 11:55 AM
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Wow... a little nervous? If I was in your shoes and being honest I'd say "holy BLEEP!!!!" and then I'd say "I think I need to run for the hills!"

Let me explain. Unless this man is PERFECT and I mean PERFECT, like everything you've ever wanted & more, has not one flaw except an extra toe or something, that is a lot of "extra" stuff to take on, and I mean a lot. Not only are you involved w/ this man, but you are involved w/ an entire army of issues, child support, visitation, custody, ex, battles, arguments, sharing holidays, you have to be prepared to deal w/ a lot more than just a few issues. Are you prepared for that? And that is just a little sentence of "stuff"... if I were you, and I knew what I knew now. I would have turned around, looked the other way & never looked back. And I had a child already from a previous relationship! I too, had baggage! I too had some issues that were somewhat similar. My now DH had only 1 child from his 1st marriage, but if I knew then what I knew now, I wouldn't have made a lot of these choices. I guess the question(s) to ask yourself is "are you truly prepared to do this?" and if you're already scared now...what are you going to do in another 10 years? I'm not saying he's not worth it or that he's not a nice person, but I can say that sometimes, certain situations aren't worth getting involved in.
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September 14th, 2010, 12:43 PM
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Wow... a little nervous? If I was in your shoes and being honest I'd say "holy BLEEP!!!!" and then I'd say "I think I need to run for the hills!"

Let me explain. Unless this man is PERFECT and I mean PERFECT, like everything you've ever wanted & more, has not one flaw except an extra toe or something, that is a lot of "extra" stuff to take on, and I mean a lot. Not only are you involved w/ this man, but you are involved w/ an entire army of issues, child support, visitation, custody, ex, battles, arguments, sharing holidays, you have to be prepared to deal w/ a lot more than just a few issues. Are you prepared for that? And that is just a little sentence of "stuff"... if I were you, and I knew what I knew now. I would have turned around, looked the other way & never looked back. And I had a child already from a previous relationship! I too, had baggage! I too had some issues that were somewhat similar. My now DH had only 1 child from his 1st marriage, but if I knew then what I knew now, I wouldn't have made a lot of these choices. I guess the question(s) to ask yourself is "are you truly prepared to do this?" and if you're already scared now...what are you going to do in another 10 years? I'm not saying he's not worth it or that he's not a nice person, but I can say that sometimes, certain situations aren't worth getting involved in.
Wow.
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September 14th, 2010, 01:19 PM
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Wow.
You said it!!!
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September 14th, 2010, 04:54 PM
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Ummm wow is right.

Like Rachel, I too see potential problems with the older boys. But boys in general are hard to deal with. I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you.
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