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September 20th, 2010, 05:58 PM
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I may have mentioned that my older kids (with my first husband) have half-siblings that are younger than them. They are 16, 17 & 19 right now. They were conceived while I was still married to my ex-husband, but that's a totally different story for a different day maybe.

Anyway, the oldest, Tiffany, posted something on Facebook a few days ago calling their dad's new girlfriend a "daddy stealer" and Sarah (my daughter) commented on it saying that he deserved to be happy, etc. and blah blah blah. It then turned into a them vs. my kids and how my kids are spoiled and "daddy gives you whatever you want" and just a whole big mess. It's totally untrue anyway. Yes my kids have been spoiled, but that's because I (with my parent's help) spoiled them, not because their dad did. In fact, he never gave me anything above and beyond child support except maybe a handful of times. And more than a dozen times he short changed me on CS because he needed to pay their mom CS and I complained less, so I was the lucky one.

What it boils down to is that Tiffany wants a car but she doesn't even have her license yet. She's mad because their dad gave Sarah a car when she got her license and James is using his dad's extra car right now. Her dad told her he'd help her or get a car for her when she gets her license, but she wants it like right now. I talked to my ex and he believes that their mom is feeding them stuff because she's jealous that I have always had my family to help me when she doesn't have an extended family to help her. I tried to talk to Tiffany about it because I wanted her to know the truth about how things were. Sarah and her got into it on FB and then James got in the middle of it and it was just ugly. They eventually chatted and worked things out. They do love each other. I just hate that she thinks my kids got more from their dad then they did. I mean, they did have more than them, but not because their dad gave them extra.

I am not even sure why I'm posting this. Just needed to get it out, I guess.
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September 20th, 2010, 09:20 PM
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Oh boy. That sounds like a whole big mess. I'm glad it got worked out!
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September 21st, 2010, 07:27 AM
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Ugh what a mess. It's sad when siblings fight like that for silly reasons. It's even worse when someone is feeding them lies.
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September 21st, 2010, 10:42 AM
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IT sounds like things K was going thru with her step siblings and her half brothers. I hate when kids don't get along.
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September 21st, 2010, 11:32 AM
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How complicated! I'm glad the kids worked it out with each other though. Sad that Tiffany feels less than. I hope she listened and processed what you said and this doesn't come up again.

I know that's a bit of Dh's oldest problem. She thinks he dumped them & now spoils his "new kids". But in truth my kids are spoiled because I work a full-time professional job making good money & I spend my money on them - not his. Maybe someday she'll see that - but probably not
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September 21st, 2010, 05:25 PM
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How complicated! I'm glad the kids worked it out with each other though. Sad that Tiffany feels less than. I hope she listened and processed what you said and this doesn't come up again.

I know that's a bit of Dh's oldest problem. She thinks he dumped them & now spoils his "new kids". But in truth my kids are spoiled because I work a full-time professional job making good money & I spend my money on them - not his. Maybe someday she'll see that - but probably not
Yeah, I'm not sure she processed it all, but I think she's coming around. James reminded her that his car has been broken down for two weeks and his dad keeps promising to come fix it (he's a mechanic) and keeps putting him off and making excuses why he can't come. I also talked with Tiffany's mom yesterday. I have always had a very good relationship with Tiffany, Candyce and Michael. In fact, they all still introduce me as their "step-mom" when we've been divorced for 10 years. So I'm really glad that things have been worked out.
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