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My DSS (for those few that truly know me), hasn't been in my life since day one (not my choice or DH's choice). Well the last 2 mos. & counting, every other weekend he's now spending the weekend (entirely w/ us) over. But...it's not w/ out attempting to get out of spending it here or lying to his bio-mom about what we "make" him do here. He claims he has to do physical, manual labor. Hmmmm.... vacuuming is manual, physical labor? Making his bed is back breaking labor? Last I checked, it's normal chores. That's all he did. I didn't think that playing w/ Lego's or Nintendo Wii was a chore. Obviously he is lying about the other "stuff"...but it blows my mind that he lies & it drives me bananas. Once he's here, he's fine, we do have to take his cell phone away (otherwise he text's his mother over & over to go home), but that's about it. I don't understand why he can't just be accepting. He has 3 brothers that love & want him here, his father "and" me! We all want him here, he has a brand new bed, a nice room, all the comforts, lots of snacks, food, luxuries, it's not like he's on a sofa w/ nothing but a blanket & has no TV/cable or things to do. He's got a lot.
That's my "rant" for the day. He'll be here on Friday for the entire weekend. I expect he'll attempt to "try" to get out of it more again before hand & I expect the cell/text fight will come up too, but he'll be fine after he settles. I just wish he'd stop lying to his mother or he actually ask us if we give him hard core physical labor. I mean, really? C'mon.... Any ways... (end rant)
Good luck to you. I know how kids can play one parent against the other all to well. Honestly, I think this is normal behavior. Especially if his mother is telling him things she shouldn't be telling. My DSD might be coming over for the weekend as well, I'm not looking forward to it myself. Her behavior has been atrocious lately. I'm tired of the back talking and fighting with her siblings. One moment she wants to act like a grown up, the next she wants to act like her 5 year old brother. *sigh* Sorry didn't mean to hijack your rant with my own.
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