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Usually we get along great and I don't really have issues with him, especially now that our kids are grown, but yesterday James had surgery. Not only did my ex not come to sit with me at the hospital, but when I called him to tell him that everything went well, he didn't answer the phone and he has yet to even call me or his son to check up on him.
I know he's busy and has other kids and a new girlfriend, but dang. His son had SURGERY for goodness sakes.
I know this post is from a bit ago but it brought back some open wounds from my past....
First, I hope that your son is doing okay since he's had the surgery, even if it was day surgery, regardless, it's surgery, it's a child...
My son, when he was barely 2, had to have part of his intestine removed, long story short, he went GOLFING!!! Yeah... Then another time when our DS was in ICU, very sick, he decided that Blue Man Group was more important. I recall the time I called him to let him know that our son was in ICU & he said that he bought the tickets as an XMas gift to his now wife & they were on their way to see it. My thing is this... who gives a rat's behind what they are for, your child is in ICU, screw the tickets & what they are for, get your but to turn around & get to the hospital.
I was there, my grandfather was w/ me & I remember the doctor's coming in & saying "where's dad?" I said "at Blue Man group w/ his girlfriend"... that was the end of that. His father tried calling me the day after. Long story short, I didn't answer & that was a little too late for me.
Granted these events happened 8 year's ago, he's changed, and he wouldn't do those things today (his wife wouldn't allow it), once upon a time, he did, and it hurt, badly. My son was little, knew nothing different & I was fuming mad. I hope that your ex smartens' up, and fast. That is UNACCEPTABLE behavior, period! Unless your ex is serving in the war (which is a totally different story), there are no reasons NOT to be there & calling & trying to make sure that all goes well.
Thanks Chantelle. He's doing much better. He's able to walk without limping now for the most part. He's not exactly following doctor's orders, but I knew he wouldn't since he's as stubborn as his father.
I don't really know why I expected more of him since he's done this to me before, only with a different kid. Sarah had her tonsils and adenoids removed and tubes put in her ears when she was 3 and I was all alone at the hospital. I remember when they took me to recovery to see her for the first time, I was so overwhelmed that I almost passed out. I had to run from the room and I just sank to the floor in the hallway. My ex (wasn't an ex at the time) went to school that day.