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November 18th, 2010, 08:27 PM
Rachel's Avatar Just Rachel
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Do your step kids know why and how they came to live with you and their dad, instead of their mom?
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November 19th, 2010, 08:53 AM
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Well K just kinda stopped going to her mom's on her own, but since she was grounded at our house a few weeks ago she has been staying at her mom's because she doesn't like our rules.

I refuse to back down. She does not rule us.

So K chooses who she wants to live with.
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November 19th, 2010, 07:15 PM
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The eldest does, the youngest does not, he's too young.
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November 19th, 2010, 09:46 PM
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My 7 year old stepdaughter knows that her Mom moved away but I don't know how much she understands about why. I'm careful about asking her too much stuff because I don't want to make her worry about things that may not be on her mind. Her bio mom moved across country and saw her maybe once a year with pretty much no phone calls when she was 16 mths old till last year when she moved back. I am pretty sure that DSD has infered that bio mom moved away to marry her now 2nd ex husband.

I had a talk with DSD recently b/c she's always talking about how great our small town is and asking me if I agree. It's much smaller than where I moved from and I've been through frustration over job hunting (now a SAHM for good) and with the school system. She's picked up on that. We talked b/c she's worried that I'm going to leave her the way her bio mom left her I love her so much and DH is wonderful. Our marriage is about as perfect as I could ever wish. I promised her that I'll never leave her and I'll always be her Mom no matter what. Bio mom coming back into her life last year has brought up a lot of feelings and I do worry about her sometimes.

I just don't want to bring up stuff that will worry or upset her. It's a fine line to walk sometimes though when she needs to talk but doesn't know how to deal with her feelings. I just want to comfort her and be there for her.
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November 20th, 2010, 07:44 PM
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yes, SD9 does. She knows that her BM decided that she would be better with us, and that she was not ready to be a mom.
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