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December 17th, 2010, 09:39 PM
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So hollyanns BIO dad decided not to take her now. He says he is "too busy" and he decided its ok to txt and call me names... im just fed up with all his B.S so i told him to contact us when he grows up and wants to be in her life....


So, yeah my heart is breaking for my daughter big time!. He makes me to be this horrible person...when all i EVER do is try to get him to see his kid... but all he EVER focus on is ME and how i 'ruined' his life... Hello! there is a child that NEEDS YOU! ..i tried a million times to tell him THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME. ITS ABOUT MY DD!.. but i swear he doesn't listen. So he decided he cant see her now.. but later when he wants to he can pretty much what he told me. He just makes excuses... and my daughter asks about him... ITS BREAKING MY HEART!... What the heck is a mom suppose to do about this!?

Its been a few days since this happened.. And he said he is changing his number and not to contact him.. Whatever Im sick of his childless acts . He is just using my daughter as a weapon.. and it hurts he doesnt care about her.


I just want to vent... My poor baby girl.....

My BF doesnt know what to say.. he just says he is here for us.....
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December 18th, 2010, 10:04 AM
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I'm so sorry. That is so difficult. I so know. My ex was the same way. It was all about me and his anger towards me. He couldn't get past that to have a relationship with his daughter. Ultimately he gave up his parental rights so in his words - he wouldn't have to deal with me. How sad is tha?????

And for those who say, she's better off without him. That is probably true. But unless you have a dd that has been rejected by her bio dad, you really can't say that. Even though my dd has an amazing adopted dad, she still feels the loss of her bio dad. Even though they had a minimal relationship for the 6 years he was barely in her life. But the scars are there.


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December 18th, 2010, 12:33 PM
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And for those who say, she's better off without him. That is probably true. But unless you have a dd that has been rejected by her bio dad, you really can't say that. Even though my dd has an amazing bio dad, she still feels the lose of her bio dad. Even though they had a minimal relationship for the 6 years he was barely in her life. But the scars are there.
My ex and his family outright don't give a **** about Lily and haven't seen her in over 6 years. For us, it really truly is the best thing that could have happened to her and she is soooo much better off than having a halfass Dad.

For the OP... it sucks he is doing that. But to me, someone that causes that kind of stress and someone that doesn't care what they do to their child isn't a person you would want around your child anyway. Your kiddo deserves soooooo much better! **hugs**
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December 18th, 2010, 06:02 PM
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Thank you ladies!
Kris- I can really relate to your situation so much.... Its super sad... but he also cant get passed the anger and its been 3 almost 4 years.....

And yes she can do better... she has me and my WONDERFUL SO! honestly i dont know what id do without him and his support through everything! He has just been so so wonderful.

My family and friends are super supportive... also.. My best friend that actually moved me out of his townhome in 2007 said its his loss...and she has so many loved people around her ect....

I just PRAY and PRAY hollyann will understand... and not think i stopped him cause i didn't he loves to blame me though...since im such a horrible person...

He says he need s to put a roof over *his * head..i tell him i put one over my beautiful daughters head!
He is just selfish and he will never change.. not eve for her..
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December 19th, 2010, 11:24 AM
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Oh that sounds so familiar. We had split 4 years prior to my ex giving up his rights. In 4 years, he couldn't get past it. And he caused the relationship to end.

I got the same crap. "I don't have any money" "I'm struggling" blah, blah, blah.

Like I had a choice
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December 19th, 2010, 06:30 PM
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I KNOW!!! Kris! i feel the same... im like OMG your serious? I was againist even having her... since i was SO young... but i gave in..... since he as like oh we have to have her ectt...
And look who is caring for her? ME and only me....
Sad sad.. oh well!!. I just dont want him in my life anymore then if he will cause this drama
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I'm sorry he's being a douche, but I honestly believe he'll wake up one day and wonder how he can fix this and it'll be too late. Your daughter has a positive make role model in her life right now, so try to be thankful for that. I know it sucks that her birth father isn't manning up, but you can't make him do it. ((hugs))
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Thank you! and very true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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