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February 11th, 2011, 03:58 PM
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Hi everyone.
I really would like some advice.

First off i'll start with some back ground.
We are not married. Been together since 2009. But had a small break last year regarding level issues. Our time apart realized we are really meant together and been together ever since!. I met my BF when is was barely 21 (just turned 21 actually). I was 23 when i met him.

We have known each other for 2 years now. And been together most of that time as explained above.

Me and my BF know we want to get married. We are hoping in the summer of 2013!. So still awhile but i cant wait to marry my soulmate! We also want to wait till our careers are set . He is going to school to be a cop( almost done!) and possibly getting a job with a police department he has volunteered at since he was 14!. Im going to school t be a nurse!. We want to move in together this fall.

So he is kind of a mommys boy (even tho he hates when i say that!) but he still lives at home (which is fine) and his mom does some stuff for him... just little things but still!.Such as makes his lunches and does his laundry, cooks for him, buys some of his clothes ect. Hes family is big time Catholics!. They have to go to church each sunday. He is pretty much forced.He went to a private school ect.

I really LOVE his family..they are great... but they worry to much about my BF! its really frustrating to me. We talked about buying a house in possibly 2012/2013. and moving in together this fall.
He hasnt told them about it yet. He worries they will disown him.Or judge him.. he is "perfect" in their eyes. Such as he does pretty much whatever they want. Like i said i LOVE them they are great. But they are worried to much about him and he is an adult. So one of his sisters thought we were going to get engaged. And his mom asked him.. we are like ***!. his mom is worried abut him "moving to fast" although i dont think we are moving to fast. His mom told him that she doesnt want him to live with me until 2 more years! Like ***!. Thats long away. I told him i wont get a house until we live together first. Im really upset by this. Because its not like we havent been datting long! And his mom gave him the talk about how they are catholics and this is how our family does stuff ect..

So now our plan of moving in together in the fall isnt even FORSURE now. I have a child from a prev relationship but thats a whole other story! BTW his parents like my DD. its more his extend family and "family Events" such as XMAS... like i said another story lol

But anyways if you read this far... any ideas or thoughts? Im just frustrated. i talked to my bf about it and he knows how i feel. I just feel his mom is trying to hold us back because of religion issues.

Any thoughts would be great!
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February 11th, 2011, 08:41 PM
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My family is Catholic. They're very, very much like this, also. I have no advice. I completely rebelled against all of it. I hope the situation works out for you, though.
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February 12th, 2011, 07:11 AM
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It's not religion, they're using that as an excuse. My dad was Catholic, moved out when he was young (early 20's?), and they were good with it - my dad still went to his mom's all the time, still does, and he is also very much a momma's boy. It's about what the two of you feel is right. If they really love him, they're not going to disown him over moving out. This decision needs to be just about the two of you and no one else.
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February 12th, 2011, 07:38 AM
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Thank you ladies! Yeah i agree. He just wanted me to know what his mom said .. but either way he said that its our life and we will do what we need to or want too ect....
He is an amazing guy! I am really lucky for him..and his family is great this is the only issue we ever have had sigh! . We are not even arguing but he knows i told him not to let his family get in the middle of our relationship.. or effect our plans. I really think we are being smart about it. Its not like we just met and a couple months later we moved in. Its been years. But thanks for the advice
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February 12th, 2011, 03:49 PM
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I think you two need to live your lives the way you two see fit. If he has personal reservations about living together prior to marriage then he needs to communicate that to you. If not, then forget about what his family thinks.
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February 12th, 2011, 06:29 PM
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Rachel i so agree! And i talked to him about it again today and he agrees! and he plans to move in with me in the fall as planned!
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February 12th, 2011, 08:58 PM
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February 14th, 2011, 10:48 AM
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Yay! I couldn't have said it better than Rachel! So I'm glad he agrees too!
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