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So, our boys both have special needs and our youngest has some health issues, we have been going back and forth to doctors and specialists and such and finally have a bit of a diagnoses with our oldest(3) son.
Their mother called(she has supervised visitation) and asked how they were doing. And I told her about what the drs said etc. Well she asks me if i could send her thier records, so she could have her mom read them and explain them to her.
My question is.. she doesnt have any custody of them, just supervised vistiation, she hasnt seen them since the end of october, and when she calls she doesnt want to talk to them because "she cant understand them" She calls off and on once every 2 weeks. I dont think she should be entitled to seeing their records.... Am I right?
Oh and to top it all off, my youngest(he is basically adopted because my fiance isnt his dad and im not his mom..long story) and I were at walmart shopping the other day, and we litteraly run into his dad and his dads parents... I apologized and went around and they didnt even say hi!!.. we went up the next isle and they were there and just kept walking...WTH? he didnt say hi to his son...NOTHING.
He hasnt seen him since september..but come on your kid hasnt changed so u dont recognize him!!!
So when he finally calls to see him Ill say no way in hell!
Last edited by beccasmom7718; February 22nd, 2011 at 07:36 PM.
Well, she's probably not entitled to the records, but I don't see how it would hurt to give them to her. Of course, if it would cost for you to get them, I would tell her she'd need to pay for it. Even though Will & Clayton's mom doesn't ask about them, we tell her what's going on with them. She hasn't asked for any records yet, though.
I'm sorry you had to deal with a bio dad not saying hi. What a jerk!
I can't think of any nefarious reasons for her to have their records so if it isn't a huge deal to get the copies I would probably send them to her. She's not entitled to them and probably doesn't "deserve" them but it would be a kindness to let her have them. If you're skittish about the actual records maybe you could just list their conditions and print out a basic faq on each for her and her mother. That way she has an idea of what they (and you) are facing. She certainly isn't a great mother but I'm betting she does care about them, and is actually concerned.