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March 3rd, 2011, 01:30 PM
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sometimes that you could go back into the past before your DH met his ex that you could intervene and just have your happy little family as it is.. i may be a terrible person for thinking this but sometimes I wish we didn't have to deal with the other kids and the ex wife because than we would be free to do what want. Move to Victoria if we wanted. Have a smaller vehicle. Have a smaller house. Less bills... (saying this from a step-moms POV) it's just so hard I want to run away but I love my DH and I love his daughters and I'd do anything for them. Just sometimes I feel like life would be much easier!!
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March 3rd, 2011, 01:45 PM
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but I should also add that I realize we will be able to do all of this once the two girls are older.. Not much longer to go now. I am just impatient lol
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March 4th, 2011, 08:40 AM
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I do have that feeling sometimes too. But I have a dd from a prior marriage that I wouldn't give up for the world & she wouldn't exist if I had met dh 1st (he was married to his ex way before I was married to mine)

Plus Dh says I wouldn't have looked twice at him when I was in my 20's He's probably right.
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March 4th, 2011, 08:42 AM
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I've thought about it, but like Kris, I have a child from my previous marriage. If him skipping his ex would mean that I would have to skip mine too, then no I'll gladly take on all the crap in the world to ensure I have my daughter.
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March 4th, 2011, 10:35 AM
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yeah that's where we differ, I only have children with him but than I think had he not met his ex and gotten her pregnant they never would have moved out here and I wouldn't have met him and had these two amazing little girls Just sometimes I feel trapped and I get these kinds of thoughts
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Not really. I don't regret the past because the past made me who I am today and I think Neely would be a different person today had he not gone through what he did with his ex.

As hard as it is sometimes to deal with her, she is part of his past for a reason.
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March 6th, 2011, 07:18 PM
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I don't mind having SD around - although I get frustrated that I don't feel like she's "mine" often - I feel smothered by her sometimes (I don't have kids yet, so maybe all moms get there).

But I do feel sad that my SO had met his ex, married and had a baby with her before me. I hate that fact. I avoid thinking about it, to be honest, because it really will upset me if I focus on it...
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