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May 17th, 2011, 09:18 AM
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May 17th, 2011, 11:18 AM
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I am pregnant - we do not have a child together yet.

But this is a real fear of mine. Especially since we're having a boy - and he's articulated previously that he is afraid of raising a boy.
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May 17th, 2011, 11:35 AM
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Yes, totally. DH treats his daughter differently than he does our son and my daughter. His logic isn't biology though, it's because she doesn't "live" with us, therefore, she doesn't need to abide by the same rules.
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May 17th, 2011, 04:02 PM
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This was a very huge fear of mine when I was pregnant. Sometimes my husband will do something, or say something... that brings this fear back. Whether it's me reading into something he's saying, or I'm misinterpreting it, or if there really is implication in what he is saying... Though, there's no obvious difference.

There is one thing that screams this to me... but it's not something I'll get into here.
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May 18th, 2011, 08:35 AM
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My husband has never done this. He has always made the kids all abide by the same rules.

If anything it's me who treats my stepson differently (more lenient) because he doesn't live here and we only see him 3 or 4 times a year. I hate to say I'm a "Disneyland" stepparent, but I kinda am a little bit. What he wants to do, watch, eat, etc... is taken more into consideration cause he's visiting.
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May 18th, 2011, 08:50 AM
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We do not have a child together. But we do treat each others kids differently. I try to treat his daughter the same, but it tough.
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May 18th, 2011, 09:09 AM
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May 18th, 2011, 03:32 PM
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This is not an issue for us. I think I'm guilty of it more than he is. I think I show Daniel preference over his brothers, but it's not like just because they live here, they suddenly become children of my loins, kwim?
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May 18th, 2011, 05:58 PM
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My BF does seem to treat Olivia and Meyson differently, but I'm not sure if it's because Meyson is a boy and older or if it's because his parents don't live in the same household and he's trying to make up for that. Like he will make time to do something with just Meyson and him, but doesn't do that as much with Olivia.
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May 19th, 2011, 03:04 AM
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I think I'm guilty of it more than he is.
So glad I'm not the only one! LOL
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May 20th, 2011, 10:54 AM
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I'm sorry that you are experiencing that.

I'm lucky that my dh sees no difference & eventually adopted my dd. And to tell the truth since his dd's live 4 hours away, he's actually closer now with my/our kids than he is with them.
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May 23rd, 2011, 11:00 AM
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I don't think so but both of our kids live with us so maybe that's why. He and my son clicked right off the bat and have always been really close.
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