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May 18th, 2011, 02:12 PM
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We found out last week that things are much worse than we feared with my step-son. His older Cousin (mid-20s) has been abusing him since his dad moved out.

We found this out when we took the kids out to eat and I got a steak knife out of the silverwear rack and he jumped up from the table panic stricken saying "please don't throw that at me, I promise I will be good." He was not misbehaving at all, but he is autistic. His dad was fixing his plate, so I cuddled him and asked him who was throwing knives at him and he told us his cousin throws knives at him for running in the house. I assured him we would never throw a knife at our house, we only use them for food and tools and calmed him down.

When we got him home, he told us the cousin punches him in his stomach and groin, hits him in the back and head, and pokes him in the eyes. This is a terrified little boy of his cousin and would most likely explain the drastic change in behavior in both houses.
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May 18th, 2011, 02:35 PM
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I would find a way to press charges against the cousin, call children services and the police. Tell them that for his safety you refuse to take him back there until there has been a full investigation and his safety is ensured.
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May 18th, 2011, 02:57 PM
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I would find a way to press charges against the cousin, call children services and the police. Tell them that for his safety you refuse to take him back there until there has been a full investigation and his safety is ensured.
Absolutely right on.

My gosh, where does he see this cousin? At BM's?
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I would find a way to press charges against the cousin, call children services and the police. Tell them that for his safety you refuse to take him back there until there has been a full investigation and his safety is ensured.
10000% agree!
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May 18th, 2011, 05:24 PM
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His cousin lives with bio-mom. Its bio-moms nephew. DFCS has been involved because he told his counselor his story too.
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May 18th, 2011, 09:27 PM
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I would call social services, and sometimes they really can be a joke. Other solution is going to court and discussing the matter with a judge on how the abuse has not only effect his behavior but his fear of returning to that home. That is just plain awful!
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File another report with CPS. Even if they are involved already, more needs to be done. I would even go to court to petition a judge for emergency temp custody until the issue can be resolved.
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May 19th, 2011, 11:46 AM
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oh my goodness im so sorry that's happening
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May 19th, 2011, 03:14 PM
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I agree file another report & go for custody. This poor child.
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