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My SS birth mom decided to return after being gone from his life for over 2 years, he is now 4.
He has been calling me mommy for the last year and half and now that she's back she is constantly pushing my name into his head and telling him not to call me mommy. When talking to her about it and explaining this is what he calls me and I wish it to continue she says '' Well you are Lindsey, not mommy its the truth so deal with it.'' ......I'm lossing my mind with this woman! She is telling dh and I that we shouldnt allow a snack before bed because it can cause bad dreams, dinosaurs are violent ect. It's absord, this woman can't even keep daily phone calls with ss let alone stay in his life longer then a few months before taking off! Dh wants to get full custody because it's not only affect ss behaviour, emotions ect it's also that she constantly causes problems for no reason....and I'm afaird i will have a assult charge soon if she keeps it up!
Sorry that you're dealing with such a mess of a bio mom. The first thing that I would do is hire an attorney and seek for full custody ASAP. Sounds to me like the BM is offering no kind of stability and is only causing more harm than good.
What is your custody order currently? Because I would limit BM's visitation and not let her just come into his life whenever she wants like a tornado and ruin any chance of stability this kid has got.
Ugh I feel for you with the mommy issue. Our situation is very different, bio mom is very much around, but she refuses to let sd call me mom. It's actually in the divorce decree that nobody other than bm and bd can be called mom or dad or their synonms. What a joke. SD started calling me mommy on her own, but we are forced to have her call me by my name. I hate it. Sure, it feels good that she wants to call me mommy, but mostly I hate it because this is something she wants to do.
It's so annoying when parents demand outlandish things. I'm so sorry this is happening. You just need to keep your head up, know that you and DH are providing for your little one and pursue full custody. Do what is best for your kiddo, and things will work out.
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How annoying!!! She sounds like my stepkids bm. They have lived with my husband full time since before I came into the picture over 6 years ago. She is very flighty and has disappeared for months to almost a year at a time. She tried being insane to deal with, but my dh just writes her nonsense off because he has sole custody and he can! LOL I also think you need to get an attorney!
She complained because we did not order school pics for her (like we should pay for pictures for her??). She complained because when she would see the kids she would keep their nice clothes we sent them in and return them in old stuff she had that did not fit. So I started sending them with her the same way they came and she wasn't happy when she was picking them up and had somewhere to go....she tried demanding we change them and dh said "nope you sent them in these clothes so they are good enough to get them back in!". She got upset when the kids began calling me mom (but she moved out of state and didn't even call for months!). And the list goes on. She is annoying and her flightiness hurts the kids more than anything.
I hate when parents treat their kids like toys they can take off the shelf and play with when its convenient for them and they think they can just put them back on the shelf after. I wonder where they got the idea that parenting is not a full time gig???