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In my introductory post I said the ex wife, DH and I all get along pretty well. That all changed today when we found out they planned a trip without notifying DH and now we will only get SS for about 25% of summer break instead of 50-60%. DH is livid and I have no idea how to make him feel better I told him to go through the court, but he really doesn't want to put SS through that since he does like where they are living, and is excited for the trip. Plus ex wife & DH have never done anything through the court since the divorce was final. All child support was put into a joint bank acct. and neither reported address or employment change, so he doesn't want to start with he courts now, and possibly screw himself over more than she is. I'm just so upset!!!!
Can he talk to his ex and tell her he is excited for their son to go on the trip, but he is going to miss his time with him and ask for extra weekends or extra time during other school breaks (spring break, Christmas Break, etc.) to make up for it?
Sorry you have to deal with this. If he doesn't want to take it to court, then I suppose the only thing you can do is ask for extra time later on and hope she is reasonable. If she makes this a habit though, I would definitely be looking more into taking it to court.
We are hoping for both Thanksgiving & Christmas breaks this year. If not we want a majority of the summer next year since we only get him for 3 1/2 wks instead of 6 like originally planned. There is also a few short breaks we are hoping to get!