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July 22nd, 2011, 09:42 PM
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Hi there

I am new to the "blended families".. not new to JM, just to this board..

I am Nicky, and I have a son Jack, 7 previous relationship.. I have William and Charlie with my SO, and he has 3 from a previous marriage..

MY GOD, this is the first summer all 6 are here with us.. as the ex moved out of town, so now we get his other 3 for 8 weeks during the summer, and its really hard, and I feel really bad for saying that, and for feeling this way.. Keep in mind, William is just 18months and Charlie is just 11 weeks... Its just a rough time right now..

Looking to make friends here and ask advice and such.. Sometimes I think I need to see things from a perspective different than my own..
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July 23rd, 2011, 08:10 AM
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Hi there

I am new to the "blended families".. not new to JM, just to this board..

I am Nicky, and I have a son Jack, 7 previous relationship.. I have William and Charlie with my SO, and he has 3 from a previous marriage..

MY GOD, this is the first summer all 6 are here with us.. as the ex moved out of town, so now we get his other 3 for 8 weeks during the summer, and its really hard, and I feel really bad for saying that, and for feeling this way.. Keep in mind, William is just 18months and Charlie is just 11 weeks... Its just a rough time right now..

Looking to make friends here and ask advice and such.. Sometimes I think I need to see things from a perspective different than my own..
So glad to see another face
I've determined already when I give birth in January my dh's daughter won't be visiting unless he's home to handle her. Period. He will not be leaving me home to deal with her while I'm recovering from giving birth. Luckily I'm having the baby during the school year but if it had happened during summer I'd have to say the same thing. He doesn't let me discipline her like my two bios and in that case I'm not dealing w her drama while he's gone.
My time after giving birth is to recoup and bond with my baby. Dh should also be focusing on bonding w our baby and not dealing w a dramatic 8 year old.
I can't imagine giving birth and being bombarded with that many kids!
You will be in my thoughts girl!
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July 23rd, 2011, 08:21 AM
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Welcome to the board.

I would be so frustrated with 6 kids running around. I can only begin to imagine how hard that must be.
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July 23rd, 2011, 08:42 AM
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Hello and welcome!


I would probably go nuts if I had 6 kids to take care of, well more nuts than I already am! LOL
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July 23rd, 2011, 09:11 AM
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Welcome! I'd struggle with all those kids if I hadn't just given birth.
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July 23rd, 2011, 10:21 AM
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Thanks guys! its just nice to be here and see others dealing with some similar issues and know I am not the only one!
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July 24th, 2011, 12:57 AM
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I have my bonus kids for the year... I'll be giving birth when they're still here in March. I'm THRILLED that they'll be here... yes I'll be exhausted, but they'll get to bond with my bio-child immediately... not come back and find a new baby here.
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July 25th, 2011, 08:03 AM
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this is the first summer all 6 are here with us.. as the ex moved out of town, so now we get his other 3 for 8 weeks during the summer, and its really hard, and I feel really bad for saying that, and for feeling this way..
It's still new. It will get easier. I wasn't a mom yet when I got married so I went from single childless to instant mom of a 3 yr old. It was an adjustment and wasn't always easy. Now all these years later it's so much easier. Just make sure you take some time for you - alone and alone with spouse. Find a babysitter (or two if no one is willing to watch all 6 alone) and make sure you are staying connected to your hubby. Have times where hubby has all 6 so that you can get a break. Nothing wrong with needing a break. It's how we stay sane.

Oh yeah.... and Welcome!!!

hehe sorry, forgot that part! LOL
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July 25th, 2011, 10:30 AM
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Hey Nicky!

We have full time custody of Neely's two boys (12 & 10) and have had them for 2 years now. I wish I could say that it gets easier, but the reality is that it just gets different. You learn to deal with one thing and something else comes along. It's hard but you will get through it! ((hugs)) and Welcome to the board!
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