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December 3rd, 2011, 06:59 AM
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My 5 yo dsd has spent all morning hanging out in the kitchen with me, telling me how much she loves me while I'm cooking breakfast and cleaning up. Last night, I was kneeling on the carpet watching the older boys play a video game and I had my head turned to the side because dh was talking to me. My 2.5 yo dss walked over to me, put his hands on both sides of my face, turned my head towards his and gave me a kiss.

My dh makes the difficult parts of blended life worth it every day. Sometimes, though, it's an extra bit of reassurance to see them so happy. It isn't perfect and I don't expect it to be, but no family is and days like this give me cause to just stop and be appreciative of all of happy moments.
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December 3rd, 2011, 08:22 AM
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Awww So cute! Glad you are having a happy weekend!!!
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December 3rd, 2011, 11:54 AM
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That's wonderful. It's awesome when the kids show they truly care.
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December 3rd, 2011, 12:35 PM
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awww! that's totally adorable!

Reme does that stuff too, he'll tell me to kiss his daddy, then he'll climb in my lap later, tap his cheek and say "where's my sugar?"
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December 4th, 2011, 09:08 AM
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My 5 yo dsd has spent all morning hanging out in the kitchen with me, telling me how much she loves me while I'm cooking breakfast and cleaning up. Last night, I was kneeling on the carpet watching the older boys play a video game and I had my head turned to the side because dh was talking to me. My 2.5 yo dss walked over to me, put his hands on both sides of my face, turned my head towards his and gave me a kiss.

My dh makes the difficult parts of blended life worth it every day. Sometimes, though, it's an extra bit of reassurance to see them so happy. It isn't perfect and I don't expect it to be, but no family is and days like this give me cause to just stop and be appreciative of all of happy moments.
100% agree. Keep this day in the back of your mind to help you when things aren't as perfect!
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December 4th, 2011, 02:14 PM
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Wonderful!

It helps that they are younger. It's hard when blended families come together when the kids are older.
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December 4th, 2011, 02:53 PM
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Definitely. My oldest two (dss12 and dsd 10) aren't totally opposed to our blended family, but they're the ones who've been the most back-and-forth and who've been kind of hesitant and stand-offish at times. I'm not sure how they're going to feel when we have a baby together. All we can do is continue to show them a healthy and happy hope while they are with us and keep the relationship door open and hope the trust comes on its own. It's another reason I appreciate how open and the sweet the littles are.
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December 4th, 2011, 04:31 PM
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Those moments are the best. Definitely keep showing them what a happy family looks like, it really makes things so much better. My dss doesnt live in the best sitaution on the other end but all my dh and I can do is show him what a happy and loving home is.
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December 5th, 2011, 12:01 PM
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When I met my dh, his dds were 6 & 10 when we got together. The 6 year old was very accepting but the 10 year old was dead set against it from the start. My dd was 2 1/2 & was totally accepting too.
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December 5th, 2011, 12:24 PM
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Wonderful!

It helps that they are younger. It's hard when blended families come together when the kids are older.
I completely agree! While Will & Clayton were 3 & 5 when we met, they were 5 & 7 before seeing us regularly and then 8 & 10 when we got full custody. And my two were 12 and 15 when I met Neely so while they both love him and he loves them, it's never been a super close-knit relationship.

Although, it's funny that it happened this way. I took Sarah (she's 23) to a party on Halloween weekend. Our friends are closer to her age anyway, so she fit right in. She got uh, a little tipsy to say the least. Neely was very gentle with her, where I was annoyed and he helped her to bed and in and out of the car. It was sweet.
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