[pmdc5286]

Things are not looking so hot around here! It looks like we are going to court for two out of the three kids in the very near future for custody issues, but all three other parents are being butts!

Sean has hurt his back and we have been in the ER and Drs office several times and his bio father has done something with his insurance, I am not sure what, and now I am getting rejected medical claims and of course his father won't call me back. Not surprising, but still. He is on total lifting restrictions and no PE. He has missed a few days of school as well. Yeah not good.

On to Robert, he has gotten in a fight at school, suspended and mom is doing several things with him that don't need to be done. He is now truant from school too. Yeah. We are going for full custody of him. Add to the autism, adhd, odd, rage-anger syndrome, we have a full plate with him. There is a lot more, but it would take a book to write.

Now Dani. I posted about her starting to develop asthma and couldn't be around smokers. Well, her dad seems to not be able to abide by this. He and his "housemates" are all smoking around her. Add this to the fact that he is now up to a 30 pack of beer a day habit of alcohol and drove my daughter home Sunday without a license, we are going to court. It is in my divorce papers that no one is to drink alcohol or have overnight house guests around our daughter unless we are married so I am going to be a "B" and enforce this for the safety of our daughter, along with the smoking issue. His sister also told me some very disturbing information about him as well so I am going to use it. She volunteered to oversee the supervision of visits once again for modification of visits. His visits were supervised by his dad and his sister when we first separated due to anger and abuse issues. He can be mean when he drinks and his sister said it is getting out of control...bad.

I wonder if we can get a two for one deal with an attorney?

ETA...Ex brought Dani home Sunday because I was very sick and medicated on pain meds and muscle relaxers and could not drive. Jonah was at work and Sean was not home to drive me to go get her. Ex said his girlfriend was there and would drive him and then he brings her home. Otherwise I would have waited until someone got home that could have driven me to go get her. Sean having his learners permit does have its advantages sometimes.

[Wisey]

I don't know what to say, but I hope it goes smoothly and wish you the best!

[K.A.T]

Holy plate full. I hope it all works out and the attorney can get you the best deals possible.

[LoriLou35]

It sounds like you are definitely doing the right thing. I think the "B" you are referring to stands for Bear...as in Mama Bear. We ALL need to take on that role at some point. Be strong!

[Keakie]

That sounds like A LOT to deal with. Wishing you lots of luck with all of the upcoming court issues! It's so stressful but once it's over with things will be better.

I don't know about some of the other issues, but if there is something written directly in your agreement about smoking around children and someone is blatantly breaking that, it's a pretty open and shut contempt case. We're in the same state, and recently dh met with a lawyer who told us that contempt cases get dates very quickly, so if it's any consolation that one sounds like it will be out of your way pretty soon.

[.Katie.]

I am so sorry you're going through so much right now!!! I hope you guys are able to get through the system QUICKLY and move on with your lives! I think it's disgusting how much time/money us adults have to spend to get someone else to make decisions for us because we can't all agree. KUP!

[Admin-Rachel]

Goodness I can't imagine having to deal with three sexes and court with more than one. ((Hugs))

[My2miracles]

((hugs)) That is way too many exes. I hope you can get everything resolved quickly!

[pmdc5286]

Thanks for the support everyone.

The smoking is a new issue regarding Dani's health, and is now having to be addressed, however the drinking and overnight guests are written into the divorce agreement the Dani's dad's lawyer had drawn up, not mine.

Sean's dad has never been a part of his life by his choice and I normally let child support enforcement deal with him. I hadn't talked to him in almost 4 years until Sean got hurt. We were never married and he is not on Sean's birth cert. and has not legitimized Sean. The only reason I even called him was the problem with the insurance. He has to cover Sean, per child support enforcement and I was under the impression he was covered. I am not sweating this issue too much as we also have insurance on Sean as well.

The issue with Robert has been going on a while and we had been preparing to take full custody of him for a while now, its just jumped up faster than before.