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April 18th, 2012, 07:01 PM
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about our summer vacation.

We are leaving for Canada right after Reme's birthday. We were supposed to be gone 3-4 weeks. Originally 3, but since I'm giving up a spring trip home because I'm hoping to be working full time or have had a baby.

We can't take Reme with. Reme has to go to Summer school, or he has to stay behind another grade (he's already 6 and in Kinder). He finishes the week of his birthday. We can't take him after that, because it'd interfere with the start of his school. We can't go before his birthday because we have a tonne of things to do between getting home from the job, and leaving (including the van needing a LOT of mechanical work). We can't shorten the trip because I'm filing for a new passport and that can take 2-3 weeks (we're replacing a one year old passport cause I need to change my name), as well as tying up all my loose ends in Canada.

I just feel so guilty that he's going to be apart from him for so long.

is this going to happen anytime that we have to exclude Reme from something? Cause I may never go home again with out the kid if it's going to be this bad!
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April 19th, 2012, 02:38 AM
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It never fails that we end up doing something cool the weekend that the kids are with their moms, like going to Kentucky to see my parents during Thanksgiving. It happens, and there is nothing you can do. It's not your fault. But it doesn't make anything easier. ((hugs))
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April 19th, 2012, 06:48 AM
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We're trying to plan our summer vacay right now too. It is a total PITA. DH's ex is giving us grief about when we go, etc. My ex is just trying to plan his trip too, but we are working together to plan it out so we can both take them. No biggie. But I get the feeling that BM just wants us to leave Olivia behind.....over my dead body!!! If it comes to that, I have no problem telling Olivia that her mom is the reason she won't be coming. I'm not gonna let her think we just left her out.
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April 19th, 2012, 07:58 AM
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We've been there in the past. You can't help but feel guilty. I'm sorry, Ashley.
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April 19th, 2012, 10:48 AM
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Originally Posted by LoriLou35 View Post
We're trying to plan our summer vacay right now too. It is a total PITA. DH's ex is giving us grief about when we go, etc. My ex is just trying to plan his trip too, but we are working together to plan it out so we can both take them. No biggie. But I get the feeling that BM just wants us to leave Olivia behind.....over my dead body!!! If it comes to that, I have no problem telling Olivia that her mom is the reason she won't be coming. I'm not gonna let her think we just left her out.
LOL, we have a written agreement that if one parent is putting the halt on a trip they have to tell the child, with the other family present (so DH and I would both have to be there) that they are saying no. Reme's such a softie that he'd feel like someone didn't want him to go unless he was told the truth. He's already asked me a few times, and his mom a few times (since he knows we're going away this summer with out him) if we want him to go, but he just can't.




Thanks ladies. I guess if he needs tutoring next summer we could do it ourselves. The state does offer that (you do packet work, and he has to submit for testing at the end of it). Means he'd have to do school work on vacation, but maybe if the other kids did it with him it'd be easier. My cousin has a step son who's a week older (but a year ahead) and my aunt's little girl is only 2 years older... so he wont be the only kiddo.

It's too late to try and bring him with us this year and do the home tutoring. He had to submit for it by the last day of March.. not to mention he has no passport, and it's not fair to ask L to run around and do it all for us. We are going to submit for a copy of his birth certifiate on our way home (drop it off at the vital office on our way past) and get him one this fall.
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I am so sorry Ashley. It is tough. There are times when we end up doing things without Robert or Dani. Sean is usually always included or opts out himself because he is always here. We try and make sure we take "special time" for the one that misses something so they don't feel left out. It does get easier as you go along because they most of the time end up doing stuff with their other parent that their siblings don't do.
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