[pmdc5286]

My baby is hurting. I don't know what to do! We just found out about an hour ago one of his friends (who is also a distant cousin who has grown up with him) committed suicide tonight. He was at a pool party and alcohol was involved. His dad was questioning him about it and tempers got heated and Jake opened the door and jumped out of the moving truck going down the road. His mom and sister also witnessed the suicide. His sister is Dani's age. A friend of ours worked the call so the details are pretty accurate. Right now my baby boy is sitting on my bed in tears. All we can do is hold him. He will not talk about bed. He will have school tomorrow. I think school will be best, as they have trained grief counselors on hand. We are not forcing him to bed tonight, but other than that, I do not know what to do. I may call my friend from scouts who is a pastor. I am at a lost. It looks like Jonah may be sleeping in Sean's room and Sean with me.

[My2miracles]

Hugs. I wish I had great advice. I think you have it all covered. I'm sending prayers for Sean & your entire family.

[stresswife]

What an awful thing to do have to go through Thoughts for the family and for Sean.

[Admin-Rachel]

Just be there for him. My oldest son has had the unfortunate experience of losing two classmates, both to fast driving accidents. One just before junior year began (the last day of football camp, one of his teammates) and the week before graduation. It was absolutely the most heartbreaking experience for me to watch him go through that. He was pretty tough when Justin died his junior year, until he saw him at the funeral home. I didn't go with him, but my dad did. He walked in the house afterwards and just cried his eyes out. Seeing him carry his friend's casket is an image that will forever be in my brain. Gosh, I'm almost crying just thinking about it.

Anyway, there's not much you can do, except let him cry, listen to him and when he's ready, talk to him about lessons he can learn from this. Every day that my son gets in his car, I tell him to be careful because I don't want to be Justin or Pat's mom.

[Keakie]

I don't have any words of wisdom, but I wanted to let you know that I'm so sorry he's dealing with this and that my prayers are with your family right now.

[wishing]

Oh that is really tragic. Its so hard to see our kids in pain and trying to explain death to them.

[K.A.T]

I'm so sorry he's dealing with this. I think the best you can do is just be there for him when he needs you.

[pmdc5286]

Sean is doing ok right now. The school is really helping the kids with their feelings and being able to talk with his friends is really helping. Tonight is the visitation. Jake's family decided to do it at their home to make it easier on everyone since their is no viewing. My parents are taking Sean. We are not taking Dani because she is the same age as Raegan, Jake's little sister. Dani adore's her big brother and we do not want her to start panicking and thinking something will happen to her brother. Dani has enough to deal with right now than to worry about Sean all the time.

[plan4fate]

*hugs* for you.

My thoughts are with you and with the young man's family. So tragic.