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May 1st, 2012, 01:02 PM
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It has come to that point. I am going for full custody and he will have only supervised visits. My daughter is scared of her daddy and he is putting her life in jeopardy. I WILL NOT STAND FOR IT!

I got called to the school yesterday because Dani pooped in her pants and I had to go clean her up. She doesn't poop unless something is wrong We talked and her dad has been drinking excessively and is becoming very mean and yelling at all the kids at the house. He is threatening to spank the kids for reasons that Dani did not say. He just moved a woman and her kids in from Mississippi as well and is yelling and screaming at them. According to Dani, he now drinks "two boxes" of beer a day. According to Dani as well he is drinking and driving with her in the car. That is my major problem. That is endangering her life. He is already on probation for DUI. He also refuses to not smoke around her when I have it on drs. paperwork about her developing asthma and is not to be around smokers. His response is "No one will tell me to smoke in my house."

Our divorce papers say that neither one of us are to consume alcohol around her nor use illegal drugs or have overnight visitors unless we are married to them. I will use this gem in my divorce paper to prevent him from hurting one of the most precious things in my life. One of my three children.

My appt with the lawyer that handled my divorce is Friday at noon.
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May 1st, 2012, 01:16 PM
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Sounds like you're doing the right thing! I'm sorry you and Dani are going through this. Good luck!
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May 1st, 2012, 01:22 PM
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Poor Dani! At least she was willing to talk to you about some of it!

Good luck with the lawyer, I wouldn't want my kid around that man either!
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Sorry you have to deal with this. Good luck.
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May 1st, 2012, 03:30 PM
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I'm so sorry it's come to this for you. I think you're doing the right thing. For what it's worth, the fact that you have all of those things in your agreement and he's blatantly ignoring it will help you a lot.

Good luck with your appointment and keep us posted!
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May 2nd, 2012, 11:35 AM
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I'm so sorry that it's come to this. I know you've been worried for a while now. I just don't get people like him that don't put there kids 1st. So sad.

I'm sorry I can't remember how old Dani is. Will the courts listen to her desires?

Good luck! Keep us posted on how it goes.
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May 2nd, 2012, 12:05 PM
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Dani just turned 9 in March. I hope they will listen to her about the drinking and driving. I don't want to keep her from her dad completely, I just want her to be safe while she is visiting him!

Also I was able to get a statement from his ex-wife that he drinks and drives with Dani in the car to take to my attorney Friday.
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I met with the lawyer today. She is sending Ex a letter to stop all visitations immediately due to the danger that Dani is in with his level of alcohol consumption and drinking and driving until he completes full alcoholic rehab.

The smoking issue was addressed to that he has been repeatedly asked to not smoke around her due to medical reasons.

She is sending this letter to him via certified mail and wait for his response and if he fights it we will go to court. She said with all my documentation ( I had a notarized letter from his ex-wife verifying Drinking and driving, plus he is on probation for it) no judge in our circuit will have a problem with it.
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May 4th, 2012, 06:16 PM
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Good! Keep us posted on how he handles it.
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May 13th, 2012, 04:52 PM
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Well, this was supposed to be Lee's weekend for Dani. I have not gotten so much as a phone call.
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May 13th, 2012, 11:31 PM
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That sucks. He could at the very least fight to talk to his kid. You know, act like he cares. Jerk.
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May 14th, 2012, 11:25 AM
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I'm glad she is out of danger, but he should change for her, how hard is it to stop putting your child in danger while you see her? loser.
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