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May 10th, 2012, 02:19 AM
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My name is Cyndi, and I'm married to a wonderful man, and step mommy to his (sometimes) wonderful kids, and also attached to his nightmare of an ex wife. WOOHOO!

I'm usually in the TTC board, but I thought I should introduce myself here, since I discovered there are other ladies on here who feel my pain.

Hope you guys don't mind a new face!
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May 10th, 2012, 06:27 AM
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Welcome to Blended Families! The ladies here are lovely.
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May 10th, 2012, 09:47 AM
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Hello there an welcome to the board. I'm Liz married to Kev for three years but together for ten. We have a total of 3 soon to be 4 kids combined. My eldest dd, T, is going to be 16 next month, his eldest dd, Doni, is 13 and living with us as of recently, our used to be youngest son, Kev, is 7 and we're expecting our second son, Ethan due in Aug.
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May 10th, 2012, 12:01 PM
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Welcome!!

I'm Ashley, I've been married to my DH Woody since September. He has one son from his previous marrige, Reme who will be 7 this summer.

I'm one of the lucky ones, for the most part we have no troubles with his ex wife, in fact much to my husbands pleasure she and I are more than civil and can classify each other as friends most times!
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May 10th, 2012, 01:00 PM
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Thankyou for the welcome ladies.

I guess I'll tell you our story in this post, since I'm new and all.

I'm Cyndi, DH is Albert. We have an age difference, (Not a CRAZY one, but enough to really bother his ex wife, which is the cause for a LOT of our problems.) I have two stepkids, Kevin, who is 15 and Maya who is 11. DH's Ex is Wendy. DH and I both work in the Drug/Alcohol recovory feild, I'm a couselor and he is a director or a facility. I recently stopped working to focus on TTC. I will probably be on this board A LOT complaining because the kids mom is INSANE.

Well I guess not INSANE, but she goes back and forth from crazy, to good mom, to normal, to nice, to mean. You never know what to expect from her, and it's quite a pain in my butt.

Kevin lives with us, Maya lives with her mom, but she's at our house most of the time, since their mom is very into partying and being out all night. So as far as I'm concered, they live with us, and visit her occasionally.

I guess that's it! I hope to get to know you ladies well in the next few days. Thankyou for the welcome!
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May 10th, 2012, 01:27 PM
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Welcome! I'm Rachel and together with Neely, we have 6 kids. My two are grown, Sarah is 23 and James is 20 (almost 21!). His kids live with us full time for almost 3 years. William is 13 and Clayton is 11. Their mom wants them back, so we have a trial in August. Then our two are Daniel 6 and Keelan 9 months.

I get what you're saying about the manic bio-mom. Neely's ex is like that. One minute she wants to be all friendly and chatty and the next she's sending the police to our house. Thankfully I did not have to deal with that sort of thing with my ex husband. We were, and still are, very friendly and have always worked together to raise the kids.

Anyway, we're glad to have you! How large is your age difference, if you don't mind me asking?
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May 10th, 2012, 02:10 PM
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YES! DH's ex is OBSESSED with being my friend, and I'm just NOT having it. I mean we can be civil and friendly when it comes to the kids, but she wants me to go to her house for parties, and go out to dinner, and all that, and I'm just not feeling that. haha DH is 36, and I'm 24....25 Next month. It's weird, but I didn't even know how old he was until after we had been dating for a year and I had moved into his place! It just never came up haha.
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May 10th, 2012, 03:26 PM
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hey nothing wrong with the age!! im 23 and bf is 38..his crazy wife is 35ish lol...i mostly lurk!
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May 10th, 2012, 04:36 PM
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The age difference isn't bad. It might be shocking at first, but it's not horrible. So invites to parties and dinner? That's odd. I would feel like I'm being set up or something.
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May 10th, 2012, 04:48 PM
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That's exactly how I feel....she's always sending me texts like "I'm taking the kids to dinner you should come" or "my parents are having a party feel free to come" and I'm just like....ummmm no thanks. She is constantly asking me to add her on FB too which weirds me out. Like how obsessed are you? lol!

And with the age difference....we've been together for 4 years, lived together for 3, and have been married for 2....at first I understood, but now it's like, come on....you aren't used to it yet?
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May 10th, 2012, 06:25 PM
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I think the age difference is fine, except when you put it in perspective that you were 10 when his kid was born, kwim. It's still cool. I dated a guy once after my divorce. He was 6 yrs younger than me and since I am only 16 yrs older than my oldest he was 10 yrs older than her. It was fine, except he was super immature some times. I always teased him that he was only with me so that he could eventually dump me for my daughter.
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May 10th, 2012, 07:30 PM
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I try not to think of it that way....haha! At first I was really weirded out when I found out his age, but by that time we were already commited, and I thought it would be a really dumb reason to dump the best guy I'd ever dated! So I didn't....now it never comes up, unless his ex says something about it.

Her biggest thing is that I'm immature, but honestly, I grew up SO fast, having to take care of my sisters because my parents drug use. In our case age really is just a number, but I agree that in most cases it wouldn't work.

In any case, she does more "young" stuff than me! She goes out and drinks and parties....Goes to clubs and drinks until she can't stand up. One time she was so drunk, she called DSS and asked him if he considered her his mommy. She was like "Who is your mom and dad?" and he was like....umm you mom. And she was like "Cyndi can't replace me, you know that right." and he was like, she's not trying to....He spends most of his time here since he's older and knows his mom isn't right. He also says his mom's side of the family talks so much S*** he usually comes home after a couple hours. He's only spent the night with her twice in the three years I've lived with them. Anyway, I never drink, don't go out. I stay home and cook dinner and do laundry and help with homework all for HER kids, and she has the nerve to say I'M immature. What a load...Ick.

Well that went off track haha!
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May 11th, 2012, 11:59 AM
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Welcome! Age doesn't really matter once you are an adult & if it works for you great! I could see it being a little unsettling at 1st because you were 10 when his 1st child was born. But in the end that doesn't matter.

My neice is engaged to a guy who is 12 years older than her. It works for them. I usually don't think about it but I do get weirded out a little when I think about the fact that he's closer to my age than to hers. But that's only because I was only 15 when she was born.

On the overly friendly topic, dh's ex was like that in the beginning. The 1st time we met, she ran up to me like we were long lost friends. She had this weird idea that we would be all 1 happy family together - sharing holiday dinners & such. Yeah no WAY! She's not my type of person.
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May 11th, 2012, 03:30 PM
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welcome!
I'm Samantha Married to Justin
He has two kids Ethand and Kayley who will be 7 and 5 in 7 days!
together we have a 14 month old daughter
we've been together 4 years this June and got married last september
DH is 5 1/2 years older than me and I was only 19 when we got together so his ex made a HUGE deal out of that, but she's STILL more inmature than I was at 19 lol
His ex also tries to be all nice to me on the phone and such but then talks bad about me and tells DH how she hates me so I know what ya mean !
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