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May 12th, 2012, 08:47 PM
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Does the woman not own bras anymore? This time was a tight blue tank top. But you could see full nipple outline. i don't understand. Is this a cry for attention since Eric is now officially never going to be hers?

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of behavior when you and DH got engaged?

I can't process it. It's trashy. It's pathetic. It's disrespectful.
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May 12th, 2012, 09:54 PM
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*shrug* I did more thinking about it after your last post... and realized, I'm not going to get dressed and put on a bra just because I know L's bringing Reme over. She doesn't do it when she knows we're bringing him back either.

I know that it bothers you, but really... if someone expected me to get dressed in my own home just because they're coming to pick up something... I'd probably tell them off. I even asked L.. and she said the day I ask her to put on more clothing is the day
that we start exchanging Reme at a park somewhere. Yes, she could put on a looser shirt.. but it is her home, not the park.. she doesn't have to put on undergarments just because you're coming over, or even your DF.

She's probably doing it for attention yes, but that's what makes it trashy, not the fact that it's being done at all.

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May 13th, 2012, 11:34 AM
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I tend to agree with Ashley. I don't put on a bra when J picks up the kids. I usually wear a nursing tank when I'm in the house because it's easier, so that's what I have on. I'm big breasted so it's not the best support for my ladies, but it's how I'm comfortable and it's my house.

Now, if I were going to her house, I would definitely have a proper bra on. So if she's coming to your house, then it is trashy and in poor taste, but what can you do? I would just expect that sort of behavior from her and then be surprised in a good way when she doesn't act like that instead of expecting better and being disappointed, kwim?
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May 13th, 2012, 03:15 PM
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*shrug* I did more thinking about it after your last post... and realized, I'm not going to get dressed and put on a bra just because I know L's bringing Reme over. She doesn't do it when she knows we're bringing him back either.

I know that it bothers you, but really... if someone expected me to get dressed in my own home just because they're coming to pick up something... I'd probably tell them off. I even asked L.. and she said the day I ask her to put on more clothing is the day
that we start exchanging Reme at a park somewhere. Yes, she could put on a looser shirt.. but it is her home, not the park.. she doesn't have to put on undergarments just because you're coming over, or even your DF.

She's probably doing it for attention yes, but that's what makes it trashy, not the fact that it's being done at all.

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She's the one coming to my house though. if it were her home I wouldn't even care. But the fact that she's coming into MY home with her goods being flaunted is what's making me mad.

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I tend to agree with Ashley. I don't put on a bra when J picks up the kids. I usually wear a nursing tank when I'm in the house because it's easier, so that's what I have on. I'm big breasted so it's not the best support for my ladies, but it's how I'm comfortable and it's my house.

Now, if I were going to her house, I would definitely have a proper bra on. So if she's coming to your house, then it is trashy and in poor taste, but what can you do? I would just expect that sort of behavior from her and then be surprised in a good way when she doesn't act like that instead of expecting better and being disappointed, kwim?
Yeah. It's not something I dwell on. Eric's mom was here for dinner and she said "How trashy." So she sees that it's a cry or attention.

And yes, she is coming to my house, not the other way around.
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May 13th, 2012, 05:27 PM
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Honestly, it is trashy, but it's likely that you're noticing the nipples more than your bf is. I wouldn't let it ruin your day.
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May 13th, 2012, 06:06 PM
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Honestly, it is trashy, but it's likely that you're noticing the nipples more than your bf is. I wouldn't let it ruin your day.
I moreso laughed about it than anything.

He did say it was very noticeable and very inappropriate. It's not something I am dwelling on, but I can't help but think it was for attention.

her and I are getting along, however. I texted her happy mothers day today and told her to enjoy her day with O. She said thanks and a smiley face.

We also chatted on the phone for 15 min the other day about Owen's school. (Hes been getting bad behavior reports on his daily calendar for unnecessary talking and interrupting.) I called the teacher and she told me not to worry because when he interrupts, it's to help explain how something is done. So it's al based around him not being challenged enough at school. So we are just working on taking our turn and raising hands and all will be fine.

Anywho, just thought it was strange.
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May 13th, 2012, 06:26 PM
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First I want to say I agree with Ashley and Rachel. However, knowing that she's coming over to your house, yeah she should be better dressed. But hey, this is twice now, so it's probably not going to change. Just let it roll off your back. If it were me, and I had a better body than her, I would be sure to be wearing short booty shorts and showing off my own rack. I know it's petty, but I know it would burn bm up to know that I looked better. Actually, it does bother BM that I've had more kids and look better than she does.
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May 13th, 2012, 10:44 PM
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It's a minor thing but gah it's just so awkward and sad. And classless. Gross.
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May 14th, 2012, 11:00 AM
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Yeah totally annoying but what can you do? Hopefully it's just a phase & she won't do it forever.
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