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June 5th, 2012, 07:00 PM
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Tonight I was working on school and Jonah was cooking supper and out of nowhere Dani asked Jonah if she could call him Daddy. We talked about it and got to the bottom of it with her and it comes from my ex-husband has completely ignored her since he got served with papers last month. Her grandmother (Lee's mom) had her on Sunday and he refused to even acknowledge Dani's presence. She said her dad doesn't love her anymore.

I am going to be calling her insurance provider to find a good counselor who is covered on our plan.

We talked and reached a compromise and we are going to come up with a name for him instead of Daddy. Our fear is she is trying to fill a void that is very raw. My goal, as well as Jonah's is to not take her away from her dad, but to keep her safe from harm.

I feel helpless and don't know what to do!
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June 6th, 2012, 09:35 AM
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Keep things open and honest. She's at a prime age and really have her come up with another special name. My kids call S= S.bot. Bob calls him dada but she's just a baby.
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June 6th, 2012, 11:18 AM
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I think you handled it well. Even if she does end up calling him Daddy, it wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing. ((hugs))
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June 6th, 2012, 12:06 PM
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Could she call him Daddy Jonah? After all he is a father too her as well.

((Dani)) and hugs to you as well. I do know from personal experience how tough your situation is. I hope her bio dad stops being such a butthead.
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June 6th, 2012, 04:40 PM
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Sorry her bio dad is being a spaz. I like the idea of Daddy J. But it does sound like you handled it correctly. Getting her help is the best thing to do.
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June 6th, 2012, 04:56 PM
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I don't have any advice, but I couldn't read and not send . Poor baby. I think you handled it fine.
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June 7th, 2012, 12:32 AM
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Poor Dani.

My mom and her siblings called their father Daddy's Max.

It's for the opposite reason as you guys, he was the dead beat, and their step dad was the man they wanted to call daddy.
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June 7th, 2012, 09:11 AM
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Hi I was lurking and had to chime in. I had the same problem with my 2 boys when they came back from florida. They wanted to call me Momma and their BM Mommy She wouldn't hear of it even threatened to whip them if they did it. And they couldn't say my real name Elizabeth they could just come out with Wizzus and to this day I'm still Wizzus even though they can say my name just fine. If she doesn't call him Daddy let her pick out a special nick name for him.

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June 7th, 2012, 04:32 PM
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My first response to what do I do was smack him across the face one good time but that's hardly reasonable.

A special name sounds like a good idea. That or Daddy Jonah.
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