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June 10th, 2012, 12:47 PM
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Ugh. Chloe's mom does that crap too. I'm sorry you guys are having a rough time TTC
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June 10th, 2012, 03:46 PM
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I'm so sorry!
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June 10th, 2012, 04:38 PM
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I understand this totally! BM does this to us in everything. Finally we bought a house and she is moving back in with her mother. Karma....
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June 10th, 2012, 05:10 PM
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More money for what? In some states she gonna have to prove it cost more to take care of the child when she has him and in others she'd have to prove his/your income has gone up because some states take a percentage of the other parent's income and that's it. Witch doesn't have a leg to stand on.
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June 10th, 2012, 05:12 PM
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If that's what she really is doing (and I don't doubt that it is) I think it speaks volumes about what a sad and pathetic existence she leads. My dsc's bm has escalated her shenanigans every time our relationship took a step, too (when we got engaged, when I moved in, when we got married). We're anticipating all kinds of crazy when the time comes for us to TTC.

The "one up" game is so silly. Awhile back, she was bragging about how much "nicer stuff" she has than us. She's living in a house that my il's bought for the sake of the kids and all of her "nicer stuff" are things that have been given to her by generous churches, my in-laws or her parents (in other words, none of it was acquired through any accomplishment of her own doing). We're in a townhouse right now because it's close to where dh works and we were on a time constraint when we chose it. We've held off on buying a lot of furniture for it because we knew we wouldn't be here longer than our lease. We have all of the essentials, and I think (with the exception of the horrendous looking couch we have it was free, in good condition and comfortable, though, so I'm not complaining) our home looks fine, given all of that as well as the fact that I had no desire to paint it since we'd have to return it to neutral colours before moving anyway.

The items in particular she was bragging about were beds she found on craigslist. Uh, okay - you take that win, lady. We'll take our happy, healthy marriage and bright future and call it even.

I'm so sorry for the difficulties you're having TTC and I hope that it happens for you soon. I'm even more sorry that you have to deal with such childish crap on top of it. I can't imagine how painful that must be.

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I hope karma kicks her butt (not really what I want to say but yea)

DH and I are worried she'll try and get more money out of him. She currently has suits against her for not paying medical bills, has no health insurance, totaled her car recently and has to have her parents pay her mortgage.
She can try, but her child with her boyfriend is not your dh's responsibility and she'll get laughed out of court if she suggests otherwise. My dh's ex thinks we should be responsible for her medical bills too. I don't understand it.
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June 11th, 2012, 06:51 AM
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Maybe you can time it so you're in the middle of cooking or something. That way if she strikes up the pregnancy conversation, you can interrupt with a, "I've actually got something in the oven and I need to go check on it. Good to see you!" and a prompt shut of the door, or something.

How obnoxious. I'm so sorry.
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June 11th, 2012, 10:50 AM
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((hugs)) Having suffered from infertility, I can totally feel your pain. What a B to do that to you!

BTW just to give you hope, my IVF baby turns 10 years old on Saturday. So good luck!!!!
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*hugs* I'm so sorry!!!

I'm team kayla for this one... she (not kayla lol) sounds extremely pathetic!!!
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June 11th, 2012, 11:03 AM
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I'm team kayla for this one... she (not kayla lol) sounds extremely pathetic!!!
Thanks for the clarification!
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June 11th, 2012, 12:38 PM
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Thanks for the clarification!
LOL after I had it typed out I was like "omg, it looks like I called Kayla Pathetic!" And where we disagreed in the other thread I wanted to make sure you didn't think I was taking digs at you. LOL
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June 11th, 2012, 01:18 PM
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I don't think you are.

I don't expect to on the same page with everyone about everything! Disagreements are a fact of life and I'm more interested in the things I do have in common with people than the things I don't.
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June 11th, 2012, 01:34 PM
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I'm sorry. The one up game sucks and it's a bigger smack when a new life is involved.
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June 11th, 2012, 09:32 PM
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I totally get the "one up" and pregnancy thing!

My dh and I tried for years and had to go IVF before having our baby. In the meantime his ex had 3 more pregnancies (one ended in miscarriage). She didn't know we were ttc...but her accidental pregnancies upset me a lot. I mean how could someone who was not married, with a complete jerk, and not even have a pot to piss in keep having babies??

We had the kids full time and she moved constantly. Each time she moved she would try to woo the kids with stories of all the things she was going to get them for her place. One place she moved had a familyroom and a living room so she told them she was getting bean bag chairs and video game stuff so they could have a gaming room. Another place had an inground pool. Etc. All those places were short lived and her promises about the stuff she would get them never happened. Each time she did anything for them or bought them anything they came home and made a huge deal out of it. Really bothered me, but I didn't let them see it.

Now here we are with our beautiful baby, our nice home, and the kids. She lives with a loser and all her other kids and moves from place to place still. She still had nothing to show for herself.

So things have a way of going round and round. Don't let her nonsense bother you. And good luck with IVF!! I was sooo nervous before mine, but it worked for us the first time! And that was after about 3 years of other fertility treatments and a few month break. I had actually decided against IVF because I was scared. Then one morning DH told me he thought we should give it one try and it wasn't going to be much worse than all I had gone through already. I agreed and here we are with our beautiful and perfect 10 month old
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June 12th, 2012, 08:53 AM
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Good Luck with IVF
my DH's ex did the same thing, she freaked out when she found out I was pregnant and a few months later she was pregnant... after she had been told to never get pregnant again since she almost died giving birth to kayley because of Pre Eclampsia

It sucks I know, don't let her see she got to you!
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June 12th, 2012, 12:15 PM
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Oh and I forgot to add with the one ups...

When she found out we moved in together she came to dh with stories that her bf was abusive and asked if she could move in with him!! She swore she wouldn't cause us any problems! LOL (DH had custody of the kids so WHY would he let her move in??)

When she found out we were getting married she started talking about marrying her bf and needed our wedding dates so they didn't plan their wedding for the same time. She never ended up marrying her bf though. And then she tried planning the kids to fly to see her right around our wedding and acted as if she forgot when we were getting married.

So to rub it into her I waited till the kids were visiting her and then I called and told my stepdaughter all the wedding photos from the photographer were online and went on and on about how beautiful she looked in her dress. Of course she asked me for the website info so she could look at them. LOL I am sure her mom enjoyed helping her look at our photos from our big wedding! Especially because when DH married her his family didn't show up and it was just a courthouse thing. Our wedding was church and big reception thing and some of his family was in our wedding party
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