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Ok so for years we've been dealing with dh's exr telling him 2 days in advance when his dd's have a significant event (dance recital, school play, etc) - things that are scheduled well in advance. For those that don't know she moved the girls 4 hours away from dh. So for him to get to these events, it takes some planning not to mention money for gas, food & hotel room. He works 1 weekend a month & more often than not when she tells him of the event he is working & he can't change it that close. If he had advance notice, he could switch with someone.
So yesterday she calls & says "My sister is flying into Chicago so I'll be in for the weekend. I'm dropping Eloise off with you" Really????? Your sister's flying in from Texas & you didn't know this weeks ago? Of course we can't say no because we haven't seen dsd since New Years. We love her & we miss her but.......
This is the worst weekend EVER! It's Lucy's dance recital & she's in all 3 shows this year. So she & I will be gone from 10am-10pm on Saturday plus from 12:30-5 on Sunday. I'm required to work backstage for 2 shows. The recital is held in a theater that is 45 minutes from our house.
Did I mention that I had to buy the tickets in May????? They're $15 per ticket (they put on a really good, professional grade show). Of course I don't have a ticket for dsd because I didn't know she was coming. It's not so much about the cost but I don't know if we can get a ticket for the show we're going to. It's the Saturday night one and I don't know if they are sold out. Plus even if we can that means that I'll have to sit alone & not with my family. MIL is coming from out of town to see the show too. It was MIL, dh, Noah & me originally. Plus I'm really honked off because I had my act together this year & got my ticket order in right away & we got awesome seats! Now because of this I'll have to sit by myself in a crappy seat (if I can get one) to watch MY only dd's dance recital.
She's something else. BM used to do stuff like that. Try to be all last minute so that DH couldn't get his scheduled visits with her. I hated that crap. It's nice to know parting takes precedence over having your child see their aunt.
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Well it's all a bit confusing, we're not even sure the aunt was here. According to dh that was the 1st story & then there was another story about it being bio mom's birthday weekend. Who knows?
She did have her latest boyfriend with her & they ended up leaving earlier on Sunday because he was throwing up Gotta love karmic justice!
Anyway, it was rough on dd so I put my footdown & said this can't happen again next year. I told him to make it clear to his ex that we can't take dsd on recital weekend. DD only sees her 3-4 times a year & adores her. Sunday dd was a mess at her recital because she was tired & was missing her sister.
BTW: MIL found out about it the week before. So she knew before we did. She didn't say anything because she assumed we knew about it. So crazy!