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July 20th, 2012, 07:14 PM
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Here we go.

This is a long story. And before you think I'm a drama queen, and this isn't that big of a deal, keep in mind the emotional stress I've been through lately, with a recent miscarriage, a recent chemical, and the recent loss of my father. I may be overreacting a little, but I think I deserve to.

It all started Tuesday. My step kids wanted to go to San Diego to see their grandma, but DH and I both had to work and didn't want to let them go on their own. My step son just started driving and DH is a big worry wart about it. They talked their mom into letting them, and in turn she called DH and talked him into it too. So DH went to work, and I took the kids to the gas station, filled up the car, gave them some money for food and in case of emergency, made sure there was a car charger for their phones, topped off the coolant....(Can you tell I didn't think this was a good idea???)

They left smiling, happy, excited for their first little road trip without parents.

About two hours later, I get a call From Maya (step daugther) that Kevin is having a problem with his tooth, and he's crying and can't drive anymore. She's only 13, and she doesn't know what to do....especially since I can hear Kevin crying in pain in the background. I told Kevin to get off the freeway, and park somewhere, and I'll figure something out.

I start making phone calls. First to their grandma, since she was the closest to them. I told her where they were, so she could pick them up and take Kevin to an ER and that I would be on my way soon. Then I called DH to let him know what was happening, and that I was taking the bus to his work to get the car. I also called their mom, to let her know, and get insurance information for him. She didnt' answer. Over the next 4 days that this has been dragged out, I've called her multiple times, and she's NEVER answered the phone, even after messages telling her it was an emergency, along with messages at her work letting her know what was happening.

Anyway, I got the car and started the three hour drive to Oceanside, trying to reach their mom the whole way, stressing out, freaking out. I finally got to the hospital to find that they didn't do anything for him, but drug him up and put him to sleep. This ended up costing me $900, that I was promised could be paid back to me after I got his insurance information. Knowing that he had insurance under his mom, I gladly paid. What else was I going to do?

So we took him back home, and took him to a real dentist the next day. All they did was look at him, and said they couldn't do anything. It's an infection, they said, and it's in a root canal he had done about a year ago, but they can't work on it because it needs a specialist. They charged me $375 for this, again with the promise that if the insurance info covered it, they would send me a check.

So, yesterday, we took him to DH's dentist. He's kind of an all in one guy....he can do pretty much anything. He looked at Kevin for 5 minutes, said that he was too swollen to work on, and had to go to an oral surgeon, and get drained. But the x ray made him think that there was a crack in his tooth, and that it went too far down and probably wouldn't be able to save it. To tell me this, he charged me $200.

This morning, we took him to the oral surgeon that our dentist refereed us too, and they put him to sleep, drained the infection in his jaw, pulled the tooth. Finally we get to come back home. THIS, cost me $522.

So, 4 days, and almost $2000 (probably that much if you add in gas and days I missed of work) I FINALLY get a phone call from his mom

In this phone call, she tells me how horrible of a person I am, that I should have gone to her house if it was such am emergency. She also tells me that the insurance she has for him doesn't cover dental work. When DH talks to her to tell her that she will have to come up with half of what we spent to help, because we're both working super hard and could use the money, she comes up with every excuse in the book. What I don't understand is that she has the same job she had when she was married to DH which means she's making at least how much she was making when she was with him....she was making 100K a year!!!! And not to mention, she's gotten promoted since then!!!! Throw in that she lives with her parents, doesn't pay rent, or any bills besides her cell phone, and just threw the wedding of the century a few months ago, and you will understand my frustration that I'm spending money that I've saved to go back to school....something FOR ME, to better MY LIFE, and I'm willing and happy to give it all up to see HER child healthy and back to himself, and she won't even muster up a penny for him. I love my step son, and I'm not angry at him for this....It's disappointing that I have to start over and save from scratch all over again, but I know the kids come first. I have a job, I can make it a little longer to achieve my goal, but I'm just FURIOUS that she is so selfish.

Throw in that this morning I get a phone call from my sister that my nephew was in the movie theater in CO that psycho man shot a bunch of people. My nephew is fine, but they are a little shaken up, which is completely understandable. Well in the process of the phone call, she pretty much invited herself and my two nephews to come visit, which is fine, except that they don't have the money, and I would have to buy their tickets. How could I say no after what my nephew went through? Me and him are so close and I never want to let him down. So off I went looking for airline tickets for three.

All of this has left very little time for TTC, and has caused me to have a couple of emotional breakdowns in the last two days. I'm just spent.
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July 20th, 2012, 07:51 PM
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1. Is she supposed to provide dental? If so she's in contempt, take her to court.
2. If no insurance required or actually had (she has to be taking the kids to the dentist...I'd look into it to make sure she didn't lie to you) take her to court if your agreement says that she has to pay half.
3. It's so hard when stuff with the bonus kids overshadows the life you're trying to make with your husband. Hang in there though you will make it.
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July 20th, 2012, 08:49 PM
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I would get the insurance information just to make sure that it doesn't cover dental. And even if it doesn't you would still get the money back for the ER visit. And if they spend any time with you then you should have a copy of their insurance info so that you don't have to go through this again. And you aren't a horrible person for getting in a car and driving directly to where your step kids needed you. You tried to call she needs to answer the phone.


And great big to your nephew. So glad he wasn't hurt.

Try not to stress about it too much.
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1. Is she supposed to provide dental? If so she's in contempt, take her to court.
2. If no insurance required or actually had (she has to be taking the kids to the dentist...I'd look into it to make sure she didn't lie to you) take her to court if your agreement says that she has to pay half.
3. It's so hard when stuff with the bonus kids overshadows the life you're trying to make with your husband. Hang in there though you will make it.
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I would get the insurance information just to make sure that it doesn't cover dental. And even if it doesn't you would still get the money back for the ER visit. And if they spend any time with you then you should have a copy of their insurance info so that you don't have to go through this again. And you aren't a horrible person for getting in a car and driving directly to where your step kids needed you. You tried to call she needs to answer the phone.


And great big to your nephew. So glad he wasn't hurt.

Try not to stress about it too much.
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July 21st, 2012, 02:43 PM
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Shame on her.

And your kids are LUCKY to have such a well adjusted mom! Step or not! You are doing fantastic!
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July 22nd, 2012, 06:36 AM
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so glad they had you to drive out there and take care of them!!
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July 23rd, 2012, 01:58 PM
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I agree. get the insurance information, you should have it already any how. check the order, if she should have it, contempt. if she doesn't have to, what does it say for the uncovered amounts? you'll have to follow that.

I'm glad your nephew is okay
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In the end I'm glad that everyone was okay! Shame on her. Hang in there hun. Life throws us massive curveballs sometimes. Try to stay as positive as you can!
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