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July 24th, 2012, 04:01 PM
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My kids' dad is not involved in any way, shape or form. we hold hope that some day maybe, but the realisitc part is that it won't ever happen.

So they do not have an active father figure in their lives other then S. if you remember a few weeks ago I posted about him moving in. we are still working towards that, as his place as to sell, and we work out a few other kinks that come with joining 2 independent adults, along with my 3 kids in the mix.

That said, the baby, Bob, calls him dada. she just turned 1 (!!) and it seems logical that if our thoughts are towards marriage (please remember we've been friends for almost 4 years before started dating) that he would be there form before she can remember, so dada works.

for L and C, I think it's up to them, to a point. L remembers her dad, and to her S will be step-dad, and she's given him a fun nick name, play on his first name, and he likes it and it works. C (7) goes back and forth from the fun nickname to calling him daddy.

to be honest, part of me doesn't feel right about it, but at the same time, part of me does.

so I'm curious, if you don'tmind sharing, what do the step kids call the step parents and why?

Thanks!
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July 24th, 2012, 04:12 PM
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Well when the boys first came to live with is at the ages of barely 3 and 4 they started out calling me Momma and BM was Mommy But BM had a problem with that. They couldn't say my first name Elizabeth but they tried. They never did come up with another nick name for me but the way they pronounced my first name stuck. So for 7 years I have been Wizzus. I always told people that it was Munchkin for Momma
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July 24th, 2012, 04:36 PM
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Julie calls Eric, Eric and she always has. She knows he's another daddy to her, but her dad has drilled into her head that Eric is NOT her dad. Whatever Kaylee calls him Eric most of the the time too but she also calls him Daddy a couple times a week.

Chloe calls me Katie except for when she is referring to me to one of the girls. Like "Mommy said... ". BM has also kind of burned that bridge as far as me being seen as a mother type to Chloe. It'll all work itself out in the end though so I'm not really concerned either way with what we're called. The kids all know we are a family and there for one another and that's all I care about.
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July 24th, 2012, 04:57 PM
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We are just known by our first names....

IF it comes down to it and my girls want to call her Mum, or her kids want to call me Mum.. then we'll have no problem with that, but we're not going to force it
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July 24th, 2012, 05:54 PM
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My dsc usually call me by my first name. Sometimes the little two will say, "Mommy" instead - sometimes they will say, "Kayla" right after and sometimes they don't. I don't make a big deal out of it either way. As long as they're being polite, they may refer to me however they want to in our home. They know who I am and who their bm is. They don't have a stepdad but the only boyfriend bm has ever had who liked the kids, we're fairly sure she planned on trying to have him adopt them (despite the fact that dh is highly involved they broke up in less than a year so it's irrelevant now anyway). They call her current boyfriend by his first name.

I call both my stepmom and stepdad by their first names.

I think the important thing is that your children all know that they're loved. What they call their parental figures is less important. If you're comfortable with it, df is comfortable with it and the kids are comfortable with it I would say it's fine. I'm terrible at nicknames but I know some people use them and are happy doing that instead of first names too.
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July 24th, 2012, 06:19 PM
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It's first name here too. Reme has called M Dad or Me Mom... but it upsets him a lot. He called me Mom this weekend and before I even had a chance to register it he was in tears.
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July 24th, 2012, 06:21 PM
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when they were little like almost 2 and and 4 they called me "mantha" cuz they couldn't say Samantha.. now they just call me Samantha.
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July 24th, 2012, 10:43 PM
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The kids call me by my name and same thing with their mother's counterparts.
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July 24th, 2012, 10:53 PM
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O calls me Jennifer.

However, when we got engaged, he immediately called me mom. he said that he asked his mom and she said it was okay. However, I won't push it. He has a mom so I am fine with him calling me jennifer. He slips sometimes and refers to me as mom. one time he was telling me that he and his mom are "Moving in with Jennifers friend." And I said, "who?" And he said, "Oh! I mean my moms friend!" So it goes both ways!
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July 24th, 2012, 11:15 PM
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My son calls dp by his first name and my dsc call me by mine. Well technically they call me Angi because Angela makes me sound old I think :O dsd will call me mommy sometimes but it erks me for some reason. I really dont know why. She is about to be 13 and her mother is highly involved with her. To the point that I get bad mouthed from her. So I just don't know what her (my dsd) intentions are as to why she calls me mommy.

on a side note, We try to get the kids to say my mom, or my dad, when referring to the parent not there. Oldest dss caught on pretty quickly because dp would get onto him fast, and my 5 year old calls his dad "my dad..." but the other two from bm1 just says mommy this or mom that, and that earks me aswell. wow thats a long run-on! lol. Mostly because I think it will confuse my son who, dsd and youngest dss, is referring to and when our daughter is old enough to know mommy and daddy, she will get confused too. Plus I don't respect their mother. (shame on me I know. One day in a private setting I will let you on to why it is)
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July 25th, 2012, 06:22 AM
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my kids call my boyfriend by his name..aaron...although there father passed away and aaron is a father figure he still isnt there dad...


if he was still with his wife theres no way in heck i would allow ava to call her anything but by her first name..i wouldnt even agree with "mommy denim" or anything of the sort..but thankfully i dont have to worry about it!
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July 25th, 2012, 08:34 AM
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When I talk to L and C about S I'll say his full name or his nick name, which is just S.bot (don't ask cuz I don't even know how they came up with it)

but when I talk to Bob, S is daddy, for all intents and purposes he is. She'll never know her bio -dad (long story)
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July 25th, 2012, 09:39 AM
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My kids call Neely, Neely and always have. They were 12 and 15 when we met.

W&C call me Rachel and that's what I prefer. Occasionally, they will slip up and call me mom, but it's mostly after they've been at their mom's house for a visit.
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