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FWIW, I absolutely do not think he is obligated to help or her to help her pay her child support arrearages. She needs to get a job and take care of that on her own. I just think it's weird that he appears to support her decision to get custody, but is sort of letting her flounder.
Maybe I'm not communicating this very well. I dunno.
I get what you're saying. He's being supportive but not helpful. Honestly they're nuts. Completely nuts.
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Ahhh I see what you're saying. That is odd. Maybe he's thinks she has no shot either and is just letting her learn the hard way. I know whenever we have had court issues with custody, I was always there to push and support. Or maybe he doesn't know what she's really up to?
The thing that hit me was the support thing. Maybe she's just trying for custody to get out of the support obligation. Maybe she's shown that to the bf, who has decided in his own mind that's a horrible reason to fight for custody of kids, and he's decided he's not going to be able to support that reason. Or maybe he's realized she's not what is in their best interest. There could be a whole slew of reasons for his lack of "support" now... Or it's possible he's just not sure how to help her or she's told him she doesn't need his help with this. Who knows.
Funny that someone else mentioned about just having the boyfriend to make things more stable. I dated a guy last year and things didn't work out. The other day I got a text message from him saying that he was fighting for custody of his kids & had gotten a temporary order. (The dude was a flaming alcoholic just to paint a clear picture so I'm not sure how this worked??) So he then follows up with saying that he's engaged... I'm not even mildly interested though I'm amused at how he's engaged already so I'm like "well congrats" and he's like "there's no love there. No ring has been given or date has been set, it just makes it look more stable for the custody".... WOW. I didn't know people did things like this? Is this legal? Needless to say I had no interest in continuing the conversation....