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July 26th, 2012, 02:44 PM
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I just looked at the court's website to see if there was any activity on our case. I look every few days just to make sure she doesn't file something and conveniently not serve us.

Looks like she filled out a Motion on the day of court to waive the family service fee, i.e., the custody evaluation, which she was ordered to pay $350 towards. We already paid our share and the services were already rendered.

So here's the interesting part:

her attorney quit because she stopped paying him.
she hasn't paid a penny in child support since they've been here, but she's in arrears 21 months as of August 1 to the tune of $4,700.
She can't pay a measly $350 (which she told the court she could when they ordered it) for the custody evaluation.

Yet, she wants custody of the kids. How does she propose to support them? I know that she'll get awarded roughly double what she was ordered to pay should Neely have to pay again, but I assure you that that is not enough to support 2 kids.

I know that this doesn't really amount to much in the whole scheme of things because it would seem that we'll get this whole case kicked before a court even has to make a decision, but I just do not understand what her logic is. At all. I guess that's because she's bat **** crazy.

ETA: It also makes me wonder if her boyfriend is really in support of her endeavor. I'm going to have to assume that he paid the initial retainer to her attorney, but if he truly wanted her to win this case, wouldn't he assist her further? I don't know their financial situation, but he did just qualify for a mortgage. I'm not saying it's his place to help her, but I truly believe he would help if he wanted her to prevail, kwim? I mean, I financially support Neely in this and have since day one.
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July 26th, 2012, 03:28 PM
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Bat **** crazy. Definitely.

That's a good question about the boyfriend. It would hardly be surprising to me if he wasn't so keen on her actually winning this thing - not that her finances/lack thereof are going to be the final nail in the coffin anyway. She's managed to make that the tip of the proverbial iceberg of reasons why W+C should stay exactly where they are right now.
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July 26th, 2012, 03:45 PM
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I've only stepped in here midway through your story. I went back and read some of your previous posts, but just reading this one here's my

I agree to some degree. If she can't pay the court costs it takes to get custody, how does she envision being able to support them?

At the same time, maybe she just feels like if she doesn't need the expense (of the court costs) and can get it waived, then why not? Who knows, but, it could be the case. Some people only want to pay things they absolutely have to, and if they know they could get it waived they'll at least try.
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July 26th, 2012, 05:11 PM
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I've only stepped in here midway through your story. I went back and read some of your previous posts, but just reading this one here's my

I agree to some degree. If she can't pay the court costs it takes to get custody, how does she envision being able to support them?

At the same time, maybe she just feels like if she doesn't need the expense (of the court costs) and can get it waived, then why not? Who knows, but, it could be the case. Some people only want to pay things they absolutely have to, and if they know they could get it waived they'll at least try.
I totally get that, but you have file an affidavit of your financial need in order to get it, so if she's doing it cause she can instead of because she needs to, not only is she committing perjury, but also misusing court funds that are supposed to be available for needy families.

So again, if she can't pay child support, can't pay her lawyer, and can't pay for the custody evaluation that she insisted be ordered, how does she intend to prove to the court that she has the ability to support her children?
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July 26th, 2012, 05:21 PM
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Hmmm That does sound strange. Do you know for sure she is still with the BF? Maybe they aren't together but they are making it look that way so that she looks like a more stable home KWIM? And I completely know where you are coming from with the being able to support the kids. BM is supposed to pay $50 a MONTH judge told her that she could recycle cans to get that. And she has been as high as $1500 in arrears, but never lets it get much past that because in our state anything $2000 or above is a felony.
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July 26th, 2012, 05:24 PM
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According to her 3rd ex husband, she's planning a wedding to this guy and his daughter is calling this guy daddy, but that's a whole other post.
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It could be they aren't together. It could be that he's in a bind with the house. (Buying a house is such an ordeal!)

I know for us we have struggled with court costs and transportation costs but as far as when M was with us it was easy to absorb the cost of food and extra water and things like that. It's the large sums upfront that got us.
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July 26th, 2012, 05:53 PM
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Yup.. crazy. Rachel.. we need a crazy bat crazy smiley just for us
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July 26th, 2012, 11:04 PM
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I wonder if the boyfriend doesn't agree with the things she does but goes along with them because he feels stuck?

Like.. he supported her trying to get the boys back, but when it comes down to it, he sees her true colors so he won't let her "go through with it" persay.

I don't know if that makes sense. But it does in my head lol

Whatever is going on in her head, hopefully it will all be over with soon
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July 27th, 2012, 11:12 AM
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I wonder if the boyfriend doesn't agree with the things she does but goes along with them because he feels stuck?

Like.. he supported her trying to get the boys back, but when it comes down to it, he sees her true colors so he won't let her "go through with it" persay.

I don't know if that makes sense. But it does in my head lol

Whatever is going on in her head, hopefully it will all be over with soon
Yeah, I totally understand. And I think you're right to some degree. I don't think he knew what he was getting himself into and now he's like

She's got a habit of hiding her true self till she's got her teeth in you and then she lets it all hang loose. I'm sure she's pretty close to the hang loose period of their relationship.
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July 27th, 2012, 11:18 AM
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So much insanity going around! Just crazy!

As for the boyfriend, there's a difference in being supportive & footing the bill.....
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I don't know if we can use it but I like this one. LOL
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I like this one a lot.

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So much insanity going around! Just crazy!

As for the boyfriend, there's a difference in being supportive & footing the bill.....
Definitely. But if the shoe was on the other foot and I had the financial ability to keep Neely in the fight and he didn't, I couldn't live with myself if I didn't help, kwim? I mean, if he's gonna marry her (and I've heard rumors that this is the plan), these will be his step children. Why wouldn't he be willing to financially contribute if he thought it was in their best interest, kwim?

I have been financially contributing to W&C since I've known them, whether it was just gifts or clothing or furniture or food and once or twice I helped Neely with child support, because it was the right thing to do.
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Maybe hes trying to push her to step up for her children and just not do it for her? God only knows.
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July 27th, 2012, 02:42 PM
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She is bat shiznit crazy. I think she has a few things going on in her head. One, she wants to look good to her boyfriend. Two, she thinks that getting custody will erase her past and future support issues. Three, she figures that she can live off of Neely's support. Four, she's just NUTS!

I think I can understand the boyfriend not helping with support and finances to get the boys. He feels it's not his place and in a way it's not. He probably helped her at first because he could afford it. But now that he's looking at a monthly mortgage, helping her isn't on his list of priorities. Some people don't feel it's their place to help their partner with financial support towards children whom do not even live with them. I know Kev never expected me to help him pay for support, even though BM expected me to help him pay. Yet, now that the shoe is on the other foot she doesn't expect her husband to help her pay her support obligations.
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July 27th, 2012, 02:59 PM
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FWIW, I absolutely do not think he is obligated to help or her to help her pay her child support arrearages. She needs to get a job and take care of that on her own. I just think it's weird that he appears to support her decision to get custody, but is sort of letting her flounder.

Maybe I'm not communicating this very well. I dunno.
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July 27th, 2012, 03:42 PM
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She's nuts.
and I totally get what you mean.

S would pay to help me keep the girls if it ever came to that. no questions asked.

Odds are she didn't think any of this through.
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