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I do not think you were out of line for offering her bonus time with her children. I might've left out the part about the school shopping. She could've thought you meant that she should pay for their back to school stuff. If that struck a nerve, then I'm sure she closed her ears to the thought that you were just trying to be nice. IMO, women are pretty petty that way.
I wish she would see that you only have good intentions and were trying to be decent. I'm sorry she's so hot & cold with you. It makes it hard to know where you stand and what she will take offense to, or not.
I would she waaayyy over reacted! If my sons bd texted me saying the same thing and even if I had though he was asking me to pay for school supplies I would have txted back, id love to see him but I don't have money right now for school supplies, so if you want him to go shopping send him with me with a couple of bucks . Although ive never had to deal with another women in my child's life I'd hope I wouldn't come off as a crazy bm like some of these bms do.
Here too. Every single email that gets sent to bm is wordsmith-ed and sent off by me (although I do it from dh's email account and he does look everything over before we send it) because he's working all day and we prefer to avoid using the little bit of alone time we get in the evenings to write to her if at all possible. It really is a time sink sometimes because we've learned the hard way to be very deliberate about our word choices.
I honestly think it was he school shopping that set her off and she just nit picked at the rest. I'm willing to bet if you had added that the girls have their own money to shop, she may have been more receptive to the idea. I, personally, don't get in the middle of visitation talk ever. It's just always been something that I've felt more comfortable staying away from. But that's my preference, not something that all blended families should adhere to.
I"m going to guess that you offering more time wasn't the issue. but the fact that I would have taken that as I was expected to buy all the back to school stuff, and I too would be like *** why wasn't that done long time ago, so the rest just went along with that irritation. and who knows what you were texting into, she might have been having a bad day or something.
Any and all communication about Reme comes through me. Texts are rarely addressed to DH because L knows, after 5 years of being married to him.. he hates texting. She finds it easier to get day to day answers out of me, and only specifically talks to DH if it is a custody thing.
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