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August 2nd, 2012, 11:50 AM
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I do not think you were out of line for offering her bonus time with her children. I might've left out the part about the school shopping. She could've thought you meant that she should pay for their back to school stuff. If that struck a nerve, then I'm sure she closed her ears to the thought that you were just trying to be nice. IMO, women are pretty petty that way.

I wish she would see that you only have good intentions and were trying to be decent. I'm sorry she's so hot & cold with you. It makes it hard to know where you stand and what she will take offense to, or not.
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August 2nd, 2012, 12:09 PM
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I'm busting it out again:

The cray-cray is strong with this one. Gee whiz.

For what it's worth, I don't think you were out of line. She totally overreacted.
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August 2nd, 2012, 12:58 PM
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She might have thought she was being pushed to pay for school things AND that she might lose her weekend. She overreacted.
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August 2nd, 2012, 01:48 PM
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she over reacted, school supplies or not, its extra time with her kids, why would she pass that up?
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August 2nd, 2012, 02:53 PM
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I would she waaayyy over reacted! If my sons bd texted me saying the same thing and even if I had though he was asking me to pay for school supplies I would have txted back, id love to see him but I don't have money right now for school supplies, so if you want him to go shopping send him with me with a couple of bucks . Although ive never had to deal with another women in my child's life I'd hope I wouldn't come off as a crazy bm like some of these bms do.
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I'm busting it out again:

The cray-cray is strong with this one. Gee whiz.

For what it's worth, I don't think you were out of line. She totally overreacted.
This totally. I speak with W&C's mom all the time about visitation. The fact is, I'm the one doing the majority of the parenting as Neely works a lot.
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August 2nd, 2012, 05:40 PM
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Here too. Every single email that gets sent to bm is wordsmith-ed and sent off by me (although I do it from dh's email account and he does look everything over before we send it) because he's working all day and we prefer to avoid using the little bit of alone time we get in the evenings to write to her if at all possible. It really is a time sink sometimes because we've learned the hard way to be very deliberate about our word choices.
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I honestly think it was he school shopping that set her off and she just nit picked at the rest. I'm willing to bet if you had added that the girls have their own money to shop, she may have been more receptive to the idea. I, personally, don't get in the middle of visitation talk ever. It's just always been something that I've felt more comfortable staying away from. But that's my preference, not something that all blended families should adhere to.
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Like I could understand if this was a new arrangement or if yall had screwed her over before why she'd be wary but given the history? Totally overreacted.
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August 8th, 2012, 12:51 PM
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I"m going to guess that you offering more time wasn't the issue. but the fact that I would have taken that as I was expected to buy all the back to school stuff, and I too would be like *** why wasn't that done long time ago, so the rest just went along with that irritation. and who knows what you were texting into, she might have been having a bad day or something.

I hope it all works out.
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August 8th, 2012, 08:10 PM
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So it sounds like it was just the money factor?
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Seriously? She's only had them two weeks this summer and she's taking the offer as some sort of hidden agenda on your part??
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My guess is it would be the money factor.


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I'm fairly new here, I don't get the issue with her picking up a few back to school things with her money...

I think it was overreaction.

Anything she disagreed with, she could have said in a nicer wording.
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