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August 8th, 2012, 06:53 AM
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Oy! I shouldn't be surprised but the truth is coming out about where dsd stayed while bm was in the hospital. Bio mom's sister just said "she's staying with a friend" Stupid me for translating that to dsd was staying with a 13 year old girlfriend of hers and her family. NOOOOOOO Dsd was staying with the bm's boyfriend & his son.

Oh and get this, she went tubing down a river with the boyfriend's ex wife! WTH??????????

So instead of being with her father & siblings - she's with the mom's boyfriend. I shouldn't be surprised because this is the 2nd man that she's tried to replace dh with but still..... Dh is a really good dad.

I know bio mom will be pissed but I told dsd the truth. I didn't bash bio mom but I wanted her to know that her dad was going to get her & we all wanted to have her with us but that we were told no.

I can only imagine how she felt - mom in the hospital from a stroke & dad doesn't care

People say this blended family thing gets easier but for us it's gotten harder. 7 years & I hate that woman more each day. What a selfish b she is!
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August 8th, 2012, 08:02 AM
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Wow that is so wrong!!! I can't believe she tells such lies to her kids! I also don't understand why she would rather have the kids with a boyfriend over their father.
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August 8th, 2012, 08:27 AM
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Ugh we dealt with this for years. It sucks and it's so stupid because they generally date losers who don't stick around when things get hard. But who's still there? Dad because that's what fathers do when you let them! Agh!
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August 8th, 2012, 09:02 AM
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Some "mother". I don't understand what must go on in these women's heads that leads them to lie to their children and destroy their relationship with their other parent and feel no shame about it.

I think you did the right think by telling dsd the truth without bashing bm.
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August 8th, 2012, 09:10 AM
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ugh. we'd have told the same thing. We don't sugar coat things, if L said no, we tell Reme his mom said he couldn't do it, and vice versa.

that said, I'd be extra pissed in your situation.
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Some "mother". I don't understand what must go on in these women's heads that leads them to lie to their children and destroy their relationship with their other parent and feel no shame about it.

I think you did the right think by telling dsd the truth without bashing bm.

The ironic thing is she's a family counselor
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That's horrible. I could understand if bf was her dh, but he's not and her dad wanted her. Why do some parents work so hard to replace the other parent? This is a huge pet peeve of mine. People who have the other parent around, and that parent is a good parent, don't appreciate the fact that the other parent is around and doing right by the child. Those crap heads need to take a walk in the shoes of the parents who don't have the other parent involved with the child or doing right by the child. BM is famous for that one. I ripped her a new one one day because of how she treated DH. She's lucky to have such a good man be involved in her child's life. She's never had to comfort a crying child when they're wonder why their daddy doesn't love or want them.
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That's horrible. I could understand if bf was her dh, but he's not and her dad wanted her. Why do some parents work so hard to replace the other parent? This is a huge pet peeve of mine. People who have the other parent around, and that parent is a good parent, don't appreciate the fact that the other parent is around and doing right by the child. Those crap heads need to take a walk in the shoes of the parents who don't have the other parent involved with the child or doing right by the child. BM is famous for that one. I ripped her a new one one day because of how she treated DH. She's lucky to have such a good man be involved in her child's life. She's never had to comfort a crying child when they're wonder why their daddy doesn't love or want them.
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Yup it honks me off too because dd's bio dad gave up his rights so he wouldn't have to pay child support She was old enough to remember him & smart enough to realize he didn't want her.
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What a douchecanoe.

But the bright side is she's 13 and you only have 5 more years, right?
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August 9th, 2012, 06:28 AM
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Yup only 5 more years!!!!!

More to the story. She didn't just go canoeing with the boyfriend's ex wife, she spent the weekend camping with her
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Wow. Just wow.
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So not right
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August 9th, 2012, 11:53 AM
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That sucks.

When BM went into rehab, she sent O to live with her parents and had everyone lie to us. We had to pick O up from there instead of his summer camp, and they just claimed he didnt go that day.

When the truth finally came out, we sat them down and explained why he belonged with us. His mother was sick and he needed the other bio parent to lean on. The ridiculous thing was that he WANTED to be with us, but was told we were only able to have him on the weekends.

Im sorry you're dealing with this. Hopefully things get sorted out quickly.
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August 9th, 2012, 12:23 PM
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Yup same here. Sd wanted to be with us too. I don't know what she was told
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So bm was in the hospital. She left her dd in the care of her boyfriend (instead of the girls father). And then the boyfriend passed the girl off onto his ex wife?? Or did he go camping with his ex and her??

Whatever it was that is messed up!!
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August 15th, 2012, 06:56 AM
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Yup that pretty much sums it up. I don't think he went camping with them but honestly I'm not sure. I didn't want to ask to many questions. Partly because I didn't want to appear that I was grilling dsd & partly because I was so mad that I didn't want to know more & explode in front of dsd.
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