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Does/did your child have a legal age where they are free to choose which home they want to reside in? We often wonder if our kids will decide to try living with their other parents. Just looking for stories on how that worked out if you've experienced it.
I have no idea what the law is in Wi.... We haven't lived the kind of life to have Reme choose to live with us full time yet. And while we certainly have the space for him for visits, full time I think he'd be miserable stuck in our apartment not able to run and jump (it's a full time job reminding him not to jump on the floor these days).
DH and I have discussed it, partly because not every woman wants to full time parent their step child unless there is no other option. We agreed barring abuse at his mom's house (which is the least likely thing to happen ever in both of our opinions) around 13 we would consider allowing him to live with us if he requested it. But he'd have to wait until the end of the school year, and would have to stay with us for a full year since he would have to switch schools to make the move and mid school year is not the time to be moving districts "just because". The 1 year rule is because DH and I both remember being 13 and wanting to live with someone else when you got punished, and then live with someone else again when that person punished you too.
Reme is of course, not being told this. As far as he will be concerned, he lives with mom, and visits with us.
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However my parents divorced, and when I was 15 i asked to go live back home with my dad (he stayed in the family home, beacuse it's been in his family for 3 decades) we didn't go back to court, it was all done outside of court. I don't know about the child support because I was never made aware of any of that.
but my parents, even though there was major tension and hate between them. had open visitiatons, there was something set by the court, but if I decided to go to dads I could, and so on. but I moved back home to dads full time at 15 and stayed there till 18.