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August 11th, 2012, 04:41 PM
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It's a small win but a step in the right direction. Bm tried to pull the puppet strings again but dh stood up to her! He did end up compromising a little bit (which really was better for us too) but he didn't give in to her like he usually does.

So here's the story. Last week when dh talked to bio about the exchange (the meet 1/2 way which is 2 hours away). They talked about exchanging on Saturday & agreed to Saturday EVENING (that's key). Well to us evening is anywhere from 4-7 so we were thinking 6ish but were flexible.

Sometime in the middle of the night, he got a text from his 17 year old, saying noon . No we had plans. Bm is always trying to call the shots & always changing times at the last minute. We've been dealing with this for 6 years. Evening can be open for interpretation but noon is definitely not evening. He sticks to 6pm.

So his 17 year old, texts back "ok are we bartering now? How about 2pm." Ok well she doesn't know the meaning of bartering but Dh is thinking that bm just got cleared to drive after her stroke & 17 year old isn't an experience driver. They live in farm country so most of their drive will be in very desolate areas with no street lights. So Dh compromises and says 4pm.

Yay Dh! In the past, he would have packed dsd up that minute & been in the car. 4 really ended up being better for us anyway. We did what we had planned to do & now Dh will be home for dinner & family time! BM, 17 year old & Dsd get home safely at a reasonable hour. Everyone wins! And bonus Bm doesn't get her way!
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August 11th, 2012, 05:43 PM
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WTG! I'm glad he stood up to her!

And what's with SD texting and not the ex?
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August 11th, 2012, 06:51 PM
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that's great that he stood up to her! I used to constantly give in to my ex, but the moment i started standing up to him things changed for the better
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August 11th, 2012, 09:28 PM
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Good for him!
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August 12th, 2012, 10:27 AM
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WTG! I'm glad he stood up to her!

And what's with SD texting and not the ex?
Yeah I thought that was weird too. Maybe bm thought he'd be more agree to her request more than hers. It was also weird that she texted late at night when she knew he wouldn't be up. Game play all around I suspect.

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that's great that he stood up to her! I used to constantly give in to my ex, but the moment i started standing up to him things changed for the better
I hope that helps us too!
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August 13th, 2012, 08:09 AM
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YAY!!! So glad he stood up to her!!!
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August 13th, 2012, 02:13 PM
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How great that he stood his ground. I used to get so sick and tired of that. Oh and the classic having the kid do the dirty work. BM mastered that one here too. She would also text or call really late knowing DH wouldn't respond so that she can use it against him later. ughh
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August 15th, 2012, 09:00 AM
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that's great.

though I too wonrder why she isn't the one talking about chaning the time ?
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