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September 11th, 2012, 01:05 PM
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While I understand that they don't want random people brought in and out of the childs life... at this point you are no longer a random person, you are carrying the child's sibling. She's going to have to accept that.
Yeah, I agree. Plus which, they don't even have the legal right to say that. I mean, I didn't want my ex to have his girlfriends around my kids either, but there was nothing in the courts I could do to stop if, so long as they weren't abusive or like sex offenders or something.

I think they are both being unreasonable.
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September 11th, 2012, 01:22 PM
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I don't care if they're broken up they're miserable and deserve each other. Christ almighty they sound dreadful.
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September 11th, 2012, 01:34 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Plus which, they don't even have the legal right to say that. I mean, I didn't want my ex to have his girlfriends around my kids either, but there was nothing in the courts I could do to stop if, so long as they weren't abusive or like sex offenders or something.

I think they are both being unreasonable.
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And I'm assuming that you are only hearing side of the story.....
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September 11th, 2012, 01:44 PM
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My thoughts too. I mean how can a "rational" person expect that both of his baby mommas not be allowed to have other men around his kids.
Not a rational idea there...if he chooses to be ignorant in his ways that's fine. But don't the siblings deserve to know each other exists??? How will that happen any time soon if his other kid can't be around you.
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September 12th, 2012, 12:19 AM
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They were in a funny situation, she does come fom an abusive background, they met he helped her and had the child, they dnt really have a huge amount of family between, nor do they have many close friends, therefore were bringing him up between them. I think initally he flet pressure to see the LO more, he was having him tues/thurs eve and every other weekend, however she insisted he see the son more, therefore he is always going to see this one as the priority over and above the new baby. If I am honest, I thought that I was going crazy, hence brining the story to the table and getting the opinions of others.
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September 12th, 2012, 07:51 AM
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you're gonna do what you're gonna do. no matter what we say, and I have a feeling you already know the answer of what's right and should be done, or you wouldn't have asked.

good luck!
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September 12th, 2012, 08:09 AM
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I think all of it sounds pretty fishy. You need to decide what you want to do and stick with it. Don't let him get into your head.
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September 12th, 2012, 08:12 AM
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I know, its so easy to be swayed by words but I need to keep emotions out of it.
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September 12th, 2012, 11:14 AM
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Again I just have to wonder why. Good luck.
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