[ShesaDreamer]

K's birthday was on the 28th. We had him cause it was a weekday BM called and told him Happy Birthday and all that. A week before she had tricked him into going to her house saying that she had things planned for his birthday since it was the last weekend she was supposed to have him before his actual birthday. (he wanted to stay at the house and come to my office and go swimming) Well he went over and she just kept asking what he wanted to do when her BF got paid. Well this past weekend he went thinking that she was going to take him somewhere. No she didn't even get him a cake or a present or card. He said that BM's mom took him out to dinner. But that BM didn't do anything. We didn't get him a gift but we took him rafting for his birthday, I get a discounted rate so it was only $70 for all of us to go and I go free. And then I made him cupcakes on his birthday before I went to work. I just can't believe that she didn't take him to do something. Or at least get him a card. K is one of those kids that always needs assurance that he's love and when BM does stuff like this it bothers him for a long time. I just don't understand that woman.

[Keakie]

Oh my word. Poor K! Seriously, it costs pennies to bake a cake!

I'm glad that he has you helping him feel loved and special.

[Mom2DyJessAva]

poor kid!!..i mean how can you not do something? ya know...a card is literally a few dollars.

im glad he had you guys there!

[w292737]

[Wisey]

Awww Poor kid! That really stinks!

[Admin-Rachel]

That's awful. I know that W&C's mom hasn't bought them presents on their birthdays in several years. She does supposedly cook their favorite meal when she has them around their birthdays. They never actually have been with her on their birthday and we end up going out to dinner that night so she doesn't usually talk to them either.

[mom2more]

Is it possible that BM's mom was at dinner with them but the dinner was really bm's planning? Just trying to be optimistic.

If the dinner was really her mom's thing though that is really crappy!! Anybody can afford to make a cake or cupcakes. It costs maybe $5 for everything you need to do it! My step kids mom has been like that for years. Sometimes she doesn't even call on their birthdays. The only presents they have gotten on birthdays or holidays from her are when she is living near her parents...and they arrive here with her parents gifts which leads me to believe its really her parents doing it.

[My2miracles]

How sad

[plan4fate]

Poor K!!!

I'm with everyone else, it takes a few bucks to make a cake, or heck buy one!

[Ember Rose]

Poor baby. Baking a cake doesn't really cost anything.

[Hollydawn]

I am so sad for K. Poor thing.

[K.A.T]

Poor kiddo I'm sorry he had that happen to him.

[stresswife]

seriously? you can BUY a freakin cake for like 8$ a walmart.. and get a card and balloon and still be under 10$. stupid woman

even though it was 10 days after my Stepkids birthday when they got here for the summer I still got them a cake and had balloons and some dollar store gifts for them,its really all about the thought.. and obviously she had none

[ShesaDreamer]

I know that she might be tight on Money but we are too. I actually got the cake mix for $.50 and then bought the icing for $1 and I had everything else. So it cost me $1.50 to make him his cupcakes. And her AND her BF get food stamps. So I know they aren't hurting for food money.



And thats another thing that irks me. They are preformong welfare fraud technically. They live together but she uses her moms addy and he uses his parents addy so they both get the food stamps. But there really isn't anyway I can prove it.

[stucklikeglue]

Ugh what a terrible thing. Christmas and Easter and such is one thing but your birthday is a whole other. I'm sorry for k.

[mom2more]

Originally Posted by ShesaDreamer

And thats another thing that irks me. They are preformong welfare fraud technically. They live together but she uses her moms addy and he uses his parents addy so they both get the food stamps. But there really isn't anyway I can prove it.

BM in my case also committed welfare fraud (who knows she still may be!).
She was claiming she had all 5 of her kids living with her (when my 2 step kids didn't). She also claimed that she got no child support and that her bf was not living with her. So I am assuming she was getting a lot of $ in food stamps and probably cash assistance!

We found out on accident when the school told us our step kids had case #'s and offered us free lunch for them! I made my hubby call the local welfare office right away and let them know the kids lived with us. He had to fax them his court paperwork showing he had custody. He didn't want to make waves and report it at first, but I pointed out that someday the state might want to come after him for all the money they were paying out on behalf of his kids. That worried him! Especially since my ex pays child support regularly and there was a mix up and the state froze his bank accounts and it took nearly 2 months to straighten out!