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  #1  
September 10th, 2012, 12:47 PM
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What was the easiest part of blending families?
What was the hardest?

For me the easiest part was getting used to having 2 more kids full-time. I always wanted a large family.

The hardest part was getting my son to accept sharing me. He really liked my hubby and step kids, but when we moved in together he started getting jealous.

What about you?
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September 10th, 2012, 01:56 PM
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Easiest part was bringing Dh into my life. He fit in really well for the the most part. He & dd had a little bit of getting used to each other.

Hardest part - dealing with dh's oldest dd. With the help of her mother, she cause a lot of unnecessary grief in our lives.
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September 10th, 2012, 02:37 PM
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Easiest: My marriage with dh. He is my perfect match

Hardest: The tears from our oldest girls who remember when we were with their mom/dad. No matter how bad it was, they still hurt over not having us all together anymore. I know it's the best in the long run, but it's still sad watching them try to work through it.
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September 10th, 2012, 08:35 PM
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Hmm easiest would have to be DH blending with DD during the early years. Now, they fight like a normal father and daughter would.

Hardest would have to be right now. DSD has been living with us for the past 6 months and it's been a major adjustment for ALL. I thought the years of dealing with BM and her stupidness was hard, but nope, learning to live with DSD full time after she's already been raised differently than DH and I would have raised her together is oh so painfully difficult.
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September 11th, 2012, 08:31 AM
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hardest. knowing that I have another adult to discuss things with, to decide things with. Being the only adult for so long not only family/kid decisions are all mine, but so are all the household what we are doing this weekend. type things were mine alone.

now I have to dicuss more, and I'll admit that's hard for me.

easiest I LOVE having another adult there having someone to talk to about things that stress me out is so comforting
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September 11th, 2012, 10:00 AM
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Easiest- being with DH, we just fit together.
Hardest- trying to parent the kids, they are raised differently with their mom, and especially now that I'm trying to start rules and such with Audrey, I think the hardest is yet to come next time we have the kids, Audrey will see how they react to me and think she can do the same.. NOT
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September 11th, 2012, 10:37 AM
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Hardest was/has been discipline with his boys.
Easiest was Neely's relationship with my kids. They were 16 and 13 when we met, so I was worried that they wouldn't want him around and/or be resentful, but it totally was a breeze. I think part of that was because he didn't step in and try to be their dad.
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September 14th, 2012, 05:39 AM
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Easiest : moving in with BF, he is my soul mate.

Hardest: BM drama. Adjusting to having a son off and on. Building a relationship with out stepping on toes.

Now things arent so hard any more.
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September 14th, 2012, 01:33 PM
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easiest : Dh coming into our life and my daughter and him getting along
hardest: parenting two little boys who were neglected before we got them and have signs and issues that pop up all the time. And not knowing what to do about it all the time. Especially knowing they have FAS and their mom not admiting to drinking so they can get the services they need
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September 15th, 2012, 05:24 PM
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The easiest thing has been my relationship with dh. I believe that we have a very strong, loving and healthy relationship and he is everything I could ask for in a partner. He is kind, patient, makes me laugh and dedicated to our marriage, and I am very thankful to have him.

The most difficult thing has been watching my dsc's mother make lousy choices and launch repeated vendettas against my dh. It hurts me because I see what a wonderful person he is, and it makes me angry that she actively tries to rob the kids of a relationship with him for no reason besides her own jealousy and pettiness.
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September 15th, 2012, 06:12 PM
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I'm really interested in the answers to this, because we haven't officially 'blended' yet - but the girls and i are moving up to live with Lauriel and her kids, in January. I'm a little wary about how the blending process is going to go, with 3 very headstrong 5+ yo's... and my sensitive little 2yo
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September 15th, 2012, 06:45 PM
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Easiest: Being with DH

Hardest: Our unique blending that we have to do with DH being gone so much. So not only are we just part time parents, but we can have up to 4-5m where we don't so much as see Reme, to having him 50% of the time. Thankfully L and I have pretty open channels most of the time, even if I do try and funnel the ideas through DH to her so I'm not stepping on toes.
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