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Owen's alarm goes off at 6:50 am. Mine goes off at 6:45. I snoozed today, and Eric and I both got up at 7am. As I walk down the hallway, I hear Eric talking to Owen. "Are you sure you ate breakfast?" "Yeah, dad."
So Eric pulls me aside and says "I think Owen is lying to me. He claims he had cereal but there's no evidence anywhere and he's playing video games now. He's only been up for 10 minutes."
So I say, "Owen what kind of cereal did you have?" He cant remember.
"Which bowl did you use?" He points to a bowl in the dishwasher that I used 2 nights ago. And it's bone dry. Then he takes a box of cocoa pebbles out of the cupboard and says, "I had these."
So I say, "Here is my problem. That bowl is completely dry. And we just bought a brand new gallon on milk last night and it's not even opened yet, yet you claim you had cereal."
All the sudden, his face goes blank. He realized he was caught. Eric asked him why he was lying and he started crying and said he didn't know why. I think it's because he didn't want to miss out on playing video games. So we took away his video games. For the rest of the week, no video games. (However, tomorrow we're going to a baseball game, Saturday is his b-day party, and Sunday we're going to a water park, so when would he even play?) But when he comes back after his week with his mom, he has lost the privilege of video games in the morning.
What a stupid thing to lie about.
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Jennifer - Married to DH 3.10.13 - Stepmom to 8yoDSS - TTC Cycle #4
About a year ago we were wondering why our boys were so tired in the morning and having such a hard time waking when they were going to bed early enough to get 9-10 hours of sleep. Ended up finding out that they were sneaking downstairs in the middle of the night to play video games!
We don't allow video games before school anymore. And on weekends/days off they have to be dressed, fed, teeth brushed, hair combed, and chores done before video games. Otherwise they were waking up at 5am to get on the video games.
I think you are doing the right thing by taking them away for lying. Better to nip the lying in the bud.
like mom2more there aren't any video games before school here (and won't ever be). We are lazy beings on the weekend, so there's no requirements there, but I do have the rule of "if I say you're done, you're done, and no complaining." Even DH has the rule. LOL
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Yeah, sounds like some of the dumb things our boys have lied about. And yeah, we don't allow video games in the morning at all even on weekends, they can't play games until they have had breakfast.
About a year ago we were wondering why our boys were so tired in the morning and having such a hard time waking when they were going to bed early enough to get 9-10 hours of sleep. Ended up finding out that they were sneaking downstairs in the middle of the night to play video games!
We don't allow video games before school anymore. And on weekends/days off they have to be dressed, fed, teeth brushed, hair combed, and chores done before video games. Otherwise they were waking up at 5am to get on the video games.
I think you are doing the right thing by taking them away for lying. Better to nip the lying in the bud.
Yeah this was the first issue that we have had with them. But then I started thinking and last time he was with us he kept saying he ate a pop tart and there were never any wrappers in the trash...
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Originally Posted by Ember Rose
The sooner you squash lying the better.
Boys will be boys and most of them would rather play than do anything else.
Yeah had it just been "Oh I didnt eat yet whoops I'd rather play" then it wouldnt have been as bad. It was the lying I cant stand.
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Originally Posted by plan4fate
Yikes!!!
Lying = not cool.
like mom2more there aren't any video games before school here (and won't ever be). We are lazy beings on the weekend, so there's no requirements there, but I do have the rule of "if I say you're done, you're done, and no complaining." Even DH has the rule. LOL
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Originally Posted by Rachel
Yeah, sounds like some of the dumb things our boys have lied about. And yeah, we don't allow video games in the morning at all even on weekends, they can't play games until they have had breakfast.
Yup. Smart. I learn as I go, but the funny thing is it's a N64, not even some big expensive one, lol
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Jennifer - Married to DH 3.10.13 - Stepmom to 8yoDSS - TTC Cycle #4
I had this problem with Ethan, he is so obsessive about games, its really bad.
He has to ask permission anytime he plays though and the xbox is in our room, which helps me cut down some. DH doesn't think its bad, but thats because he is as into the games as Ethan is lol
He will learn! There's nothing wrong with making the rule that he can't play/watch anything until he is ready for school. That's how we do things anyway.
We don't have my dsc on school days so it's a little different here. We're lax about video games in the morning because they can be early risers and if it keeps them quiet for an extra 30 minutes before we get up, it's fine by us. That said, we don't have a problem getting them to stop the games and eat breakfast when they're asked to. Dh also doesn't eat breakfast himself so he's not as concerned about their eating as soon as they get up.
If it were a school morning, it would be entirely different though.
Here, if it's obvious that someone is lying, we don't even give them the opportunity to continue lying. We would have said something like, "You didn't eat breakfast. I don't see a bowl and you have only been up for 10 minutes. Turn the game off and pour yourself some cereal."
We don't have my dsc on school days so it's a little different here. We're lax about video games in the morning because they can be early risers and if it keeps them quiet for an extra 30 minutes before we get up, it's fine by us. That said, we don't have a problem getting them to stop the games and eat breakfast when they're asked to. Dh also doesn't eat breakfast himself so he's not as concerned about their eating as soon as they get up.
If it were a school morning, it would be entirely different though.
Here, if it's obvious that someone is lying, we don't even give them the opportunity to continue lying. We would have said something like, "You didn't eat breakfast. I don't see a bowl and you have only been up for 10 minutes. Turn the game off and pour yourself some cereal."
The thing was that we weren't positive that he was lying. Only when he pointed to the bowl I used the night before was I sure
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That said, we don't have a problem getting them to stop the games and eat breakfast when they're asked to. Dh also doesn't eat breakfast himself so he's not as concerned about their eating as soon as they get up.
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