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Clayton was on the phone with his mom yesterday. We sometimes monitor phone calls but yesterday I only caught Clayton's side of the conversation. He was telling his mom about all the running he does in gym. I'm sure he made it sound like more than it really is, but I could hear his mom ask him if he told his gym teacher about his heart problem.
I was like and then and
Clayton was in the NICU when he was born because he had trouble with breathing. His lungs were slightly premature. He came home with an apnea monitor, but not a heart monitor, though his mom insists that's what it was. There is NOTHING wrong with his heart, never has been. Neely tried to tell her that it was his lungs when Clayton was born, but she just kept going on and on about it so he mostly ignored her.
So all of a sudden, after 11 years, we should be worried about his heart and he shouldn't run in gym.
Clayton told her that he didn't know if his gym teacher knew about it and probably not because "dad and Rachel deny that I have an issue." So you wanna know what she tells him? She tells him to have his gym teacher call her and she'd explain it to him.
First of all, she is the non-custodial parent. The school can't discuss anything with her without Neely's consent. If she calls the school and wants to get or give information, they can't talk to her without first calling Neely. Second of all, yet again, she's undermining Neely's authority and trying to go around him to get something she wants. Thirdly, Clayton is fine. He's always been fine. He's the most active kid I know and she used to tell us that she thought he'd be great at Parkour because he's always moving and moving fast. If he had heart trouble, why would she have encouraged that?
She's ridiculous. And the level of crazy is off the freaking charts, folks.
Wow she's got munchhausen by proxy or something! It's like she wants him to be sick. That's just all kinds of wrong.
I swear she does.
When I first met Neely, he told me that Will had diabetes. She told him that Will had been diagnosed with diabetes and that's why he couldn't have visitation with him because he needed to take some kind of class to learn how to care for a child with diabetes. He thought it for months. She also duped him out of thousands of dollars telling him that his medication and testing supplies weren't covered by insurance. I was with him 3 or 4 times when he dropped money off at her house and he ended up with only $20 or $30 to see him over till his next pay check. Dude was living on ramen.
About 8 months later we found out it was all a lie. Not sure what her motivation was besides the money, but it was total BS.
You may wish to warn the school that she might be calling. She may get ballsy enough to have her new husband call and say he is Neeley.
You may also want to sit down with Clayton and his NICU records to show him what he was treated for. I know a few mothers who do this type of thing to their kids, and the kids will forever believe it until they end up with their medical records and see that their mother/parent was lying.