[mom2more]

I think I posted here before school started about sd's school not allowing me to register her. Had to wait till hubby got home and let him go because even though they have a copy of his custody papers and our marriage certificate I am still not the legal guardian. Well sd is having trouble in one of her elective classes. She can switch to another elective at the end of the quarter. The guidance office called me back a few minutes ago, but would not talk to me about the class. They said that they can only speak to hubby.

This is getting annoying. I have always been the one to deal with school stuff. Hopefully he can just tell them they are allowed to speak to me too. I am the one who is available during school hours anyways, he barely ever is.

Its just annoying because we never ran into this issue in the elementary school or jr. high school in our district.

[Admin-Rachel]

You are not the only one. The middle school will only deal with me if he authorizes it. It's annoying. I had much more interaction with the teachers and administrators at the elementary school.

I feel like the middle school treats me like a glorified baby sitter.

[stucklikeglue]

That sounds highly annoying! I'm sorry you have to deal with it

[plan4fate]

*hugs* I don't have to deal with the school a lot thankfully, so I don't run into this, but it would frustrate me to no end if I did!

[mom2more]

Originally Posted by Rachel

You are not the only one. The middle school will only deal with me if he authorizes it. It's annoying. I had much more interaction with the teachers and administrators at the elementary school.

I feel like the middle school treats me like a glorified baby sitter.

Exactly how I feel!

What gets me is that they wanted a copy of our marriage certificate during registration. We gave it to them thinking that it was for this, so I could speak to the school too. But obviously it wasn't, so what did they need it for?

[My2miracles]

Ughh how frustrating! I hope he can give permission & then they will talk to you!

[w292737]

can he just write up a document and sign in front of a notary giving you permission to speak to them and acton his behalf if he is not available?

I've done that for the doc office so my mom or their nana can bring them, and thus the doc can disucss things with them just the same as me.

[mom2more]

Hubby tried calling back and left a voicemail for the guidance counselor to call him back. When he does talk to them he will ask about what he needs to do so they can speak to me as well as him.

[K.A.T]

A copy of your marriage cert sounds so intrusive. So far I haven't had to deal with any of that. Only thing I've done so far is go pick her up from the school nurse. They didn't ask any questions, which shocked me to be honest. But since I'm on the blue card, I wouldn't expect any issues either.

[pmdc5286]

I am fortunate that Robert's school will deal with me on all levels! They actually prefer to deal with me and Jonah over his bio-mom. I attend IEP meetings, teacher's meetings, sign for meds and do all the e-mails with teachers. I am also first call when he is sick since Jonah works full time. Jonah has gone to all IEP meetings and most teachers meetings. The ones he has missed are called at last minute and he can't get off work.

The school I have the most problem with is Sean's. His bio-father is not allowed any-contact. I have the alert on his pick-up list as well as on his school records. Bio-father's sister is the school attendance secretary. Sean doesn't know this, but I do. I am conflicted as to how I should handle this. When Sean was in middle school, I went in to pick him up for the first time and was not ID'd or anything. I became furious, because of the pick-up alert. I took it all the way to the principal. It was handled promptly and any male that goes in to pick up Sean is ID's if the school secretary doesn't know who they are (she is a good family friend and the kids' bus driver)

Jonah also can make decisions for my two kids at school as well.