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So we're about to leave to pick up O from his moms. Eric sends a friendly reminder text. "Hey can you please have a check ready for your half of O's soccer stuff?" She texts back with, "Can we just take it out of what you owe me?" (There is a 300 balance on the arrears child support from over a year ago, and SHE owes HIM 400 from taxes.) Eric didn't reply because w pulled up outside. He is of course angry. "Shes never gonna change. We just have to suck it up but none of his gear will EVER go home with her." etc etc.
She invites us inside because O wants to show us his video game. Which we have seen before. He's has it for like a year. While inside, she looks at me and says, so my half is 59 dollars right? Who should I make the check out to? She hands over a check, we thank her, and are on our way. (She didn't look good either. I know shes been going crazy with school but her eyes were sunken in and watery, and she just looked exhausted. A little alarming, but O is happy and well taken care of so obviously no questions were asked.)
We get in the car, each take a breath.. and look at each other. We both had the most dumbfounded confused look on our face. How can we get a text one minute that says she isnt paying us and then 60 seconds later she hands up a check?
Obviously it was a very pleasant surprise, but a surprise none the less!
Anywho. O has his first soccer practice tomorrow! And he's off from school and I'm off from work all week for fall break. He asked me before he left his moms if I was off this week too since I work in a school and I said yes. His reply was, "Yippie, I get to spend LOTS of time with my Jennifer this week!" and hugged me.
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Yeah. His first practice was tonight and his mom sat with me. It wasnt too bad!
She did reminisce about when her and Eric were together. And it didnt even bother me! When I commented on how Owen turned out perfect (out of context. She was talking about how when she was pregnant they tried to make her do an amnio and I commented well you didnt need to because he is perfect!) she replied, "Yeah we did do pretty good didnt we?" And I just smiled. I'm not letting her poor attempts at one upping me matter.
When it comes down to it, its gotta be hard watching someone else help raise your kid. I would imagine she is just trying to stay relevant.
Glad you got the money, Glad you could tolerate her!
Me too! I realized that part of my dislike of her was my own insecurities. she can say/think/do whatever she wants. But at the end of the day I have the love of an amazing man and wonderful father and nothing she does/says/thinks can affect that.
Yeah. His first practice was tonight and his mom sat with me. It wasnt too bad!
She did reminisce about when her and Eric were together. And it didnt even bother me! When I commented on how Owen turned out perfect (out of context. She was talking about how when she was pregnant they tried to make her do an amnio and I commented well you didnt need to because he is perfect!) she replied, "Yeah we did do pretty good didnt we?" And I just smiled. I'm not letting her poor attempts at one upping me matter.
When it comes down to it, its gotta be hard watching someone else help raise your kid. I would imagine she is just trying to stay relevant.
But you guys!
I AM GROWING UP!
That's a nice feeling isn't it?
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I'm glad it's going better. i don't think she wa trying to one up you by sayign they did pretty good, but just stating her feelings (which is true from wha you say that he's a perfect kiddo)
I'm glad it's going better. i don't think she wa trying to one up you by sayign they did pretty good, but just stating her feelings (which is true from wha you say that he's a perfect kiddo)
glad it's going better!
I agree! I'd say the same to my ex about dd if he were in the picture. We weren't good together but we made one amazing little person!
Glad the check cleared. Hopefully you will continue to learn how to handle this whole situation better.
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I'm glad things are getting better. Has she seemed like she is doing any better? You said she didn't look good when you guys picked him up... I know the two of you don't have the best relationship but you could always just say "hey, are you okay?"... Not accusatory, but she is O's mom and has him 50% of the time, so definitely important that she's okay.. I'm sure that would maybe be a little awkward though, because you don't want to be nosey but... hmm....
I'm glad things are getting better. Has she seemed like she is doing any better? You said she didn't look good when you guys picked him up... I know the two of you don't have the best relationship but you could always just say "hey, are you okay?"... Not accusatory, but she is O's mom and has him 50% of the time, so definitely important that she's okay.. I'm sure that would maybe be a little awkward though, because you don't want to be nosey but... hmm....
Yeah she's looked better the last 2 nights I have seen her. I know shes stressed at that house, so maybe she was having a hard night.
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