[my3sonsplus1]

Okay, long story short, DSD's BM lost custody when DSD was about 9 months old b/c she had over 22 broken bones among other things. The prosecutor failed to file charges even though CPS found her responsible. So she eventually managed to get every other weekend/holiday visitation. BM is always super-nice to me, but I know she isn't a nice person. And finally it has become obvious. DSD told DH that BM told her she doesn't have to love me b/c I am not her mom. And we wondered why DSD never listened to me. How could anyone say that to their child?? She made the decision to give up custody when she took the actions she took. She could at least try to be a good parent now. But I guess that will never happen.

[Stepmom2Be]

I can totally understand a biological parent feeling jealous when their kid bonds with a step parent. I think it would be nearly impossible to share mine and Eric's future child with him and another woman if we ever broke up.

That being said, it's reality. She made the choice she made, and she has to accept the fact that while she will always be this girls mom, she is allowed to have a different bond with her dads wife.

People can be so selfish

[My2miracles]

Originally Posted by Stepmom2Be

I can totally understand a biological parent feeling jealous when their kid bonds with a step parent. I think it would be nearly impossible to share mine and Eric's future child with him and another woman if we ever broke up.

Couldn't help responding to this statement. You would do well to keep this in mind when dealing with O's mom. She's doing the best she can so a little sunscreen application shouldn't be a big deal.

[Doodlebug06]

Originally Posted by My2miracles

Couldn't help responding to this statement. You would do well to keep this in mind when dealing with O's mom. She's doing the best she can so a little sunscreen application shouldn't be a big deal.

What's her background anyway? I forget who is who here a lot of times. Is this the one who played party cake with the 8 year old?

If so I can only say the sunscreen would be the least of my worries. I'd be more focused on having her do age appropriate stuff before it interferes. I just think maybe she's regretful of years she missed parenting and is trying to compensate now? Idk. Maybe misguided but not necessarily doing it to be overstepping?

[w292737]

It is hard to share your mom role with someone who isn't mom, even if you are evil and have bad things happen to your kids.

hopefully she'll come around

Seems pretty common. BM told Chloe that I will never be her family and Julie/Kaylee will never be her real sisters.

[Ember Rose]

M's mom hasn't said that to M but his grandmother has. Some people just suck.

Originally Posted by My2miracles

Couldn't help responding to this statement. You would do well to keep this in mind when dealing with O's mom. She's doing the best she can so a little sunscreen application shouldn't be a big deal.

Could have and should have.

[My2miracles]

Originally Posted by Ember Rose

M's mom hasn't said that to M but his grandmother has. Some people just suck.


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Originally Posted by My2miracles (So frustrated with BM!)
Couldn't help responding to this statement. You would do well to keep this in mind when dealing with O's mom. She's doing the best she can so a little sunscreen application shouldn't be a big deal.

Could have and should have.

Needed to be said. No apologogies. Someone saying that they could never share their child should be more understanding of someone who has to.

[Ember Rose]

Originally Posted by My2miracles

Needed to be said. No apologogies. Someone saying that they could never share their child should be more understanding of someone who has to.

And I'm sure if she were remotely respectful of Eric's place as O's FATHER (which is equally important) I'm sure Jenn wouldn't mind. Either way, people spend more than enough time scolding her for her feelings in her own threads there wasn't any need to bring it into someone else's.