[lovemybabies83]

This is the first Halloween my ex husband and I have been divored..first "holiday" really. It lands on a Wed which is the day ex has been getting them lately for his visitation (that day is not set in the papers) 3 weeks ago I told him to pick another day that week because I was taking them trick or treating. I've never spent a Halloween away from them and when we were together he had only gone once or twice trick or treating with us anyway. He said well why don't we go together..I was reluctant because their father is unpredictable, you never know if he is going to be nice or hateful. I decided that would be ok though. Well I just met him with the kids and once he got them in the car he said "your not going with us, we are gonig with my girlfriends family"

I lost it in the car because the kids and I had just talked about us all going, I told them I would see them tonight..now what are they going to think?? I can't stop crying I'm so upset.

My fiance wants me to go with him and his daughter still and his ex will be there too. I honestly don't feel right going without my kids...I'm afraid I will see the kids dressed up and lose it But I don't really want him to have to go with his daughter and ex alone (she's nuts) she is about a good a parent as my ex which isn't saying anything good. I'm just really sad and hurt right now

[Ember Rose]

That's a really rough spot to be in.

[Admin-Rachel]

((hugs)) I'm so sorry!

[Doodlebug06]

That's not nice of him and was very wrong for the kids especially after they were told it would be together. I'd document that for your divorce stuff/parenting plan and make sure you get that in writing that he's never participated before etc and maybe put Halloween as your holiday each year. What a rotten thing for him to do. He's only hurting the kids and cant see that.

[w292737]

thats tough, btu if it's not written in yoru decree he gets them tonight, why don't you jsut take them? or even take them just around yoru neighborhood for a bit and then let him take them?

[lovemybabies83]

Originally Posted by w292737

thats tough, btu if it's not written in yoru decree he gets them tonight, why don't you jsut take them? or even take them just around yoru neighborhood for a bit and then let him take them?

He already has possession of them..he made sure of that before even telling me I couldn't go. What makes me angry is he never wanted to go before and I did. My kids and I went all ou for Halloween..besides Christmas its our favorite time of year He did that to hurt me but in return he is hurtinng our children as well.

I will document this with the other things he has been doing..their racking up!

[Keakie]

I don't have a good answer, but I'm sorry you're in that position.

[K.A.T]

Oh wow. No answers either just an I'm sorry.q