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I will never understand why some kids are sooo mean to others! I have been sick all day and have not done much other than read so I felt it was best to just stay home tonight instead of going out with the kids. Sean and Jonah took the little ones to our church tonight where they were having "trunk or treat" as well as games, hay rides, and hot dogs. They needed some extra help so Sean helped with the fishing game and Jonah managed the little kids.
Jonah took the kids on the hay ride. Dani wanted to sit up front with some of her friends so he said ok and sat with Robert near the back just in case he decided it was time to get off. One of the boys on the hay ride happened to be one of Sean's half brothers from his dad. I think he is in 7th or 8th grade. (I think I have told you Sean's dad has nothing to do with him by his bio-dad's choice). Anyway M decided it would be fun to tell Dani that Sean was not her brother because they do not have the same Daddy. My little girl became hysterical. She loves her Bubba!!! Jonah overheard this and heard Dani start to cry. He got Dani with him and Robert and got her calm. He texted me and told me what was happening and found Sean. He and Sean went and found the Awana directors to handle the problem. They wanted to find my uncle who is the Pastor, but he was with someone.
My little girl is still upset, but she has been assured that Sean will always be her brother and that M was just trying to be mean to her! You don't know how bad I want to call Sean's bio-dad right now and give him a piece of my mind! I am letting the Awana leader handle it though!
Kids are mean, but sometimes it is not intentional.
I remember a few years ago when my stepson came home from a friends and told us that his sister and dad are his real family and that my son and I are not his family. Seems his friend had told him that stepbrothers are not real brothers. And that step moms are not real moms. We had to talk to stepson about what his friend said and explain that his friend meant real as in blood, not as in relationship. And we pointed out all the things that do make us a family. He understood after that and felt really bad. We also had to do damage control with my son because he was so hurt by that.
Its possible your ex's boy is being told these types of things by your ex and his wife. And the boy was just repeating what he has been told and didn't understand how mean he was being? Either way it was wrong and hurtful. I hope that the Awana leader is able to handle this and it keeps it from happening again.
W&C were once under the impression that they were more related to their sister "J" because they shared the same mom with her, than with Daniel because they "only" shared the same Dad with him. We had to nip that in the butt real quick. I would have been furious if anyone tried to tell my guy something like that.
Thanks ladies for the support! Jonah had to get the kids up and ready again this morning because I am still not feeling good. It sucks to be sick on your anniversary! Dani poked her head in here and asked me "Are you still sure Bubba is still my brother?" I told her he would always be her brother. Sean heard her as he was getting ready to get in the shower and he came out and gave her a big hug and said "I will always be your big bubbie!" Robert gave her a hug too and said "I am your brother too Dani"
some kins just don't know, if they've never been exposed to it, they probably are just in the dark.
I grew up with sisters that weren't full sisters. but since it's all I ever knew it was never a big deal. I got upset when someone was trying to explain they were half sisters (I was a teenager) for what they were talking about (in the family tree sense, aka blood lines) because to me that doesn't matter.
Ugh that is so hard. I had a daycare worker tell dd that ds was her 1/2 brother. I went ballistic! She was only 5 and while she knew she had a different bio dad, he'll never be anything but her brother.
But I do agree that he might not have meant it to be mean. Once dsd made a comment how she & ds have the same dad in front of dd. It hurt dd really bad but dsd was only stated the truth. After a long talk with her, she understood how dd's feelings would be hurt.