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November 3rd, 2012, 07:40 PM
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So she texted us. Surprise surprise, the guy is back. She told us she went to her parents and she was going back to her place at 9, and her friend, some big buff dude, was going to stay with them.

Eric asked, instead of them having to squeeze into one bed in one room, scared, if O could stay here tonight. She ACTUALLY SAID YES. She is asking that he sleep over with her one night this upcoming week to make up for it and we of course said yes.

So O will be here in about an hour. She will pick him up tomorrow morning and spend the day with him, and then we get him back at 6 pm tomorrow.

PROGRESS! Keeping us involved! Making good choices! A+ for BM!
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November 3rd, 2012, 08:19 PM
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That's so scary but good at the same time. I hope the roommate calls the cops this time so the guy can stay gone.
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November 3rd, 2012, 09:31 PM
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scary. but I'm glad she made good decisions for both her and O!
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November 3rd, 2012, 11:37 PM
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Alright. So she dropped O off at around 9pm. She looked like she had been crying. Her eyes were all red and bloodshot. She looked stressed. I felt bad.

O ran right in and she got upset and said O can I please get a hug. So I said, O go hug your mom! and he did.

She asked if she could pick him up at 10:30am, which honestly is a lot later than I expected. I was ready to offer 8am. Maybe she wants to sleep in lol. Her "friend" was on his way to her house. Which made me a little sad. Like maybe she could have slept at her parents house, but this guy coming over was more important to her? Idk. I don't really want to speculate, but I don't see any parents declining that request.

Anywho. She said the guy came back and the roommate just let him in. She called her roommate stupid. Told us "something opened up" at the apartments she isn't supposed to move into until December and she will be out within a week. Which is good because starting tomorrow at 6pm, we have O for a week.

Eric is going to talk to her tomorrow. He's going to offer to help her out. Moving twice in 3 months has to suck. So we're gonna see if she needs like some winter clothes for O or help paying for anything for him. We are also going to offer to pay the full $65 reg fee for next season of soccer that starts in Jan and not split it with her. I hope she doesn't consider it "charity" I hope she considers it us trying to help out O without her having to suffer.

We shall see. Glad he is safe in his bed here. I even got to show him the new angry birds pants and Puma jacket i got for him at Ross this week
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November 4th, 2012, 12:28 AM
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Maybe with everything she's dealt with she's having a hard time taking help from her parents? Like maybe she just really wants to be independent and try to do things on her own? Doesn't make the choice to leave herself in danger any better but maybe it's coming from a decent place? I'm glad something opened up.
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November 4th, 2012, 06:21 AM
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I'm glad she's keeping you involved. Perhaps her parents aren't supportive. You just never know. When my ex threatened to kill me years ago, my mom said "Call us ever few days so we know your alive".
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November 4th, 2012, 06:49 AM
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What a douche of a roomie to bring him back knowing bm has had a touch time with child custody anyway. That's messed up! I'm glad she's getting out now. I hope the roomie gets what she deserves in that situation.
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November 4th, 2012, 07:06 AM
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It sounds like progress! Glad that bm called you guys and was willing to do what was best for her son. And that is really nice of Eric to help more with the financial stuff for a bit. Sounds like this could be the beginning of a better relationship with you all!

As for her roommate...DUMB!
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November 4th, 2012, 08:03 AM
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Progress!
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November 4th, 2012, 09:05 AM
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It's definitely progress.

She texted Eric this morning and said, "Morning. Can you please put Owen in nice clothes as we are headed to church as soon as I pick him up? I will launder them and get them back to you asap."

Which is funny, because we are picking him back up from her at 6pm. So we're just gonna be like, "Its fine, just keep him in them all day"
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November 4th, 2012, 12:09 PM
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Sounds like she is trying and being smart about all of it!
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November 4th, 2012, 12:15 PM
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Scary, but I'm SO happy that you all seem to be working well together in O's best interests.
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November 4th, 2012, 06:44 PM
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Yep.

She's going to pick him up from school on Tuesday and have him spend the night, provided the dude isn't there of course.

It's all working out nicely. Eric said it's nice that her and I are "buddy buddy" because it's less contact he has to have with her, lol.

It's easier for me to discuss things with her (easy stuff, soccer registration, halloween costumes etc) since I haven't had a huge horrible history with her
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November 4th, 2012, 08:02 PM
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D likes it when I deal with M's mom. There's been enough time between him and R's mom for things not to be rough but sometimes things are a bit touchy between him and M's mom. Not to mention he's one of those people with no tact who will say what you're doing is stupid if that's what he thinks.
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November 5th, 2012, 10:05 AM
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So glad it's taken a turn for the better. I hope it keeps up!
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November 5th, 2012, 03:14 PM
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D likes it when I deal with M's mom. There's been enough time between him and R's mom for things not to be rough but sometimes things are a bit touchy between him and M's mom. Not to mention he's one of those people with no tact who will say what you're doing is stupid if that's what he thinks.
Sometimes it is just easier for me to deal with her. Men don't necessarily think the same as women do lol. So Eric leaves a lot of the small details to me. Most of the time, if he is awake, the decisions arrive to her VIA Eric. But during the day before he gets up for work (he works nights) I'm the point of contact.
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November 5th, 2012, 09:51 PM
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Stupid roommate but smart mama for doing right by O.
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November 8th, 2012, 08:28 AM
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that's great, and awesome she can move sooner!
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