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November 5th, 2012, 03:47 PM
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O got called out of class today. They started asking a bunch of questions about his home life. Both homes. What he has at each, what gets taken away if he gets in trouble, etc.

Eric found this out when he picked him up from school. He gets home and theres an envelope on the door marked confidential. It's from CPS.

Whaaaaa?

He calls CPS, they say they are following up on a complaint from OCTOBER 2011! Back when she relapsed and we got full custody.

OVER A YEAR.

Are you kidding me?!
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November 5th, 2012, 04:17 PM
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Oh my word.
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November 5th, 2012, 04:51 PM
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Oh, gee whiz. I don't know if I'm more annoyed that you and Eric came home to a CPS envelope, or that it took them A YEAR to investigate a complaint.
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November 5th, 2012, 07:14 PM
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A year to investigate a complaint! WOW.....good thing the child is not really in danger!
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November 5th, 2012, 07:21 PM
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That's just terrible. And what is it with CPS talking to the kids with out parents knowing. isn't that a huge no no?
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November 5th, 2012, 08:03 PM
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Is that allowable? The note said "By the way be advised we spoke to your child today at school."

he called BM, gave her a heads up and apologized that this was just being brought up now. He assured her it had nothing to do with her current living situation.

she understood and was very cooperative. She then called O. She told him, "Your daddy and grandma called them and they just wanted to come over to make sure mommy isn't drinking anymore." He didn't seem to care.

The CPS worker said she needed to conduct her interviews and then she would close the case since we withdrew our complaint.

So yeah. putting off yet another few days asking her to get the paperwork to drop the past due support. Not having her think we have only been nice to get what WE want.
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November 5th, 2012, 09:46 PM
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An entire year before they investigated is crazy. I think they were within their rights to speak to him alone. The point of cps is to protect him, not the adults. If they think a parent is causing harm, it wouldn't make sense to talk to the child in the presence of the possible suspect.
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An entire year before they investigated is crazy. I think they were within their rights to speak to him alone. The point of cps is to protect him, not the adults. If they think a parent is causing harm, it wouldn't make sense to talk to the child in the presence of the possible suspect.
I agree 100% I wouldnt want a kid to have to wait to have CPS talk to them and in the meantime the abusive person coach them on what to say "or else." Ya know?
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November 6th, 2012, 06:58 AM
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I get speaking to the child alone but I think notification should be simultaneous, in the event that you have a situation like this where nothing is really wrong and now you have a freaked out kid. Because if you can't count on them to take LESS THAN A YEAR?!?!?!? to follow up on a complainant I doubt they're doing anything to reassure the child they just confused.

It's a fine line that you have to toe I think. Because every kid questioned by CPS is not in the same situation you know. Dude an entire YEAR?!?!?!?!? How is that anywhere near right?
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November 6th, 2012, 10:41 AM
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Wow that's crazy that it took a year. I'm glad it sounds like it will be a non-event.
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November 6th, 2012, 11:17 AM
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wow, a year?! ugh
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a year is nuts.
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