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November 10th, 2012, 01:06 PM
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what are your plans this christmas? this will be athena's first, and although i really don't want to go spending tons of money on her first christmas, i think it's gonna happen anyway. lol. i don't know exactly what's happening as far as family, yet. ik we will have a dinner together, but idk where yet since our family is pretty much all over the place.
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November 10th, 2012, 05:45 PM
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DH will go back to work Dec 18th so we'll do Christmas with him the 17th
Christmas morning Audrey will open the rest of her gifts and then we'll go to DH's grandmas for dinner and secret Santa and the grab bag.
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November 10th, 2012, 09:25 PM
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We get Reme Christmas Afternoon, and I think we get him part of Christmas eve? To be honest we haven't discussed it and as long as he's here by 2pm Christmas day there will be no fussing. L's AND M's families live near by, so Reme does need time to go see them at some point, but we get him From the 25th at about 2 until the 26th in the afternoon (or later, we play everything by ear).

I had to put my foot down on going overboard. Dh made the comment the other night that he'd rather spend everything we have on Reme and nothing on us and I lost it on him. Reme needs nothing, it's all wants. And he has too much stuff as it is now so I said no. Reme will get his gifts, but so will we.

I realized later that it was selfish of me.. but I realized when he said it that We've spent over $150 on DH, $200 on Reme... and nothing for me. And it hurt me that he was willing to stop buying for US... when really, it means I see nothing at all. It was a low point for me. I've always enjoyed giving more than recieving... but I saw a child who needed nothing getting everything, and people who NEED things, going with out.


I should add that my opinion on this would change if I didn't know that Reme gets enough every year for 3 or 4 kids since he gets a full Christmas at Moms, Dad's and his grandparents, plus the gifts that come in from out of state.

DH's already mad at me because I'm buying a $75 organization unit for Reme for Christmas, and it WILL be a present. That way we have somewhere to put all the toys that are laying around his room, cause with out it, I'm not buying him more toys.
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November 11th, 2012, 08:06 AM
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Ashley, I think kids need to see the adults in their lives get presents too. So it's not right for you not to get anything. We don't spend much on us but we make sure the kids know about giving presents as well as receiving them.
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November 11th, 2012, 11:20 AM
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Thanks Kris, you made me feel a lot better.

Growing up my mom did a good balance of things we need (clothes, books) with wants (toys, movies, music). We weren't rich, and holidays were a good way to buy those few extra pieces of clothes that she couldn't afford in Sept for back to school. I was upset when I moved down here because I realized I wasn't getting my yearly gift of socks from my grandmother. There might have been tears, lots of them.

But Reme doesn't appreciate that stuff. I did at his age, I don't know what it is about socks, but man I loved Christmas and the new socks that came with it. Instead he will power through his Santa presents, and be happy, then get to gifts from us and the few that come up from DH's family to our house (for some reason, they send them to L's...) and he will complain, and whine. "I didn't ask for this. This isn't what I wanted. Why did you buy me clothes?" argh I'm already dreading it. I'm giving him another year, next year if he whines about a gift I'm putting it on a shelf for a week and THEN he can have it.

DH doesn't understand the "useful" present thing. He'd much rather just go out and buy Reme the toy organizer now, and just buy him more toys. But the reality is, Reme will still get lots of toys, and he needs no clothes at all (cept socks and undies, somehow this kid out grows those, but not his clothing?), so he's getting a big toy organizer so he can put away all his toys in the manner that is right for him. He's asked for a toy box, so.. in a way, he's getting one.
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November 11th, 2012, 02:36 PM
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I know what you mean!
I love giving things, every year I say I won't buy for DH but I always do.. I already have his stocking done and two presents, plus my mom just bought him a watch he wanted (I gave it to him early just in case it wasn't the one he wanted) but every year I get disappointed when I don't get anything from him.. I don't expect something expensive, I just want to know he took the time to think of me and get me something.
He did great our first Christmas, bought me a gingerbread house kit(because he remembered I'd never made one before) a scarf and gloves and a black heart diamond necklace(that I still love and wore it until I got a necklace with Audrey's birthstone) and since then.. Nothing. lol

I go all out for Christmas because I really don't buy Audrey toys after her birthday(in Feb) I know when she's older the gifts will be more expensive so for now she gets Alot but it's cheap things.
A toy organizer is a gift!! Audrey is getting a dressup box next year as a gift to put all her dress up clothes in!
I would hate to hear complaining too.
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November 11th, 2012, 03:24 PM
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Reme's getting a dress up box this year. lol. I just need to find the box for it, so far we aren't having much luck finding one that's the right size that doesn't have sports stuff splashed all over it. I have the costume stuff already, he's going to love it. He's always using boxes and blankets as "battle gear" or or pretending that he's got a sword... so we bought him stuff to go with it. Halloween costumes on clearance made doing it super easy!

and yeah, the organizer has become a necessity. He can't move his "toybox" (large rubber maid container) so he won't play with what's in it. He plays in the living room and only with something that he can move himself. So I'm getting one of those 9 cube organizers with the fabric cubes so he can pull them out and bring them to the living room (or if I have to do it, I don't break my back moving stuff)

Just need to find a place to store the nerf guns. Was totally tempted to buy a gun rack.....
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November 11th, 2012, 08:48 PM
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Ashley, I would feel the same way. Either we both get nothing or we all get something. I know we tend to go crazy on the kids, but the fact is that we can afford it. Plus, we didn't get much growing up so it means a lot to us to see our kids get a lot. Combine that with the cost of things now and how expensive teens are. Ughhh it's costly. But I'm a stickler for spending an equal amount of money on all of them. Or at least keep it within range.

As for this year, I'm not sure what the plans are. I think we will be home, since it will be our first with E and first in our house. Whomever wants to stop by is more than welcome to. We tend to celebrate at midnight anyway and the family we see Christmas day.
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November 12th, 2012, 06:11 AM
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Christmas Eve will be spent with my brother's family and Christmas morning we do a big breakfast at our house. W&C will go with their mom in the afternoon and probably stay a few days.
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November 12th, 2012, 08:08 AM
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not sure exactly yet. I need to get through thanksgiving
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