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December 3rd, 2012, 11:11 AM
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I often wonder what the future holds for my children and stepchildren. Will my son have a good relationship with his father when he grows up? Will my step kids have a relationship with their mom? My ss was so young when she left I wonder if when he is an adult if he will care to know her? And my sd struggles with her feelings towards her mom now, I wonder if as an adult and possibly a mom herself someday how her relationship will be? I also wonder about how they will be with their half-siblings. Their mom has 3 other children and I wonder if they will be close to them when they grow up?

I was at a family party yesterday. The person hosting the party had her parents and stepparents there. Its a long crazy situation with them all. Her siblings were there. Some of them don't acknowledge the father and his new wife. The mother looked uncomfortable. And it got me thinking I wonder what it will be like when my kids all grow up. Will I be sitting at those types of parties with my ex? Or with my step kids and their mom?

I am sure I will handle it fine. Just got me thinking about it. Any of you ever think about it?
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December 3rd, 2012, 11:14 AM
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Dh is hoping that when his oldest goes off to college next year that she & he can have a better relationship. Bm told her lots of lies. We've already seen small pockets of her seeing her mom in a different light so we'll see. Not sure if her & I will have any relationship or not. I don't ever see us being 1 big happy family though.
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December 3rd, 2012, 12:23 PM
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I think we'll do ok. If we can handle a family funeral with the 3 of us (M didn't go) and only have a few people think it was weird or inappropriate (some thought it was wrong I was there, other's that she was there... the deceased would have been knocking heads).

Reme forms extreme attachments, he's not going to let anyone go out of his life. He's already asked me if Daddy and I divorce can he still see me. I know he's still young, but that gives me hope.

My sister has no relationship with her mother. Hasn't for years. She calls my mother Mom. So I have no experience in this.
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December 3rd, 2012, 01:28 PM
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Sean is 16 now and because of his bio-dad's actions and some of the lies he has told him, he has made the decision to have nothing to do with him. A relationship was attempted around five years ago and the things that his dad did to him during that time cemented the foundation on them having a relationship. Sean does have 3 little brothers that he wishes he could see occasionally, but he knows he can't have a relationship with them without the father.

I do not believe that Sean will ever have a relationship with his bio-dad due to the hurtful things he has done to him. A two month attempt does not constitute `16 yrs of absence.
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December 3rd, 2012, 05:59 PM
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I truly have no clue. DSD should have a decent relationship with both her parents. If I fit into that future, that will be great. If I don't, it will be heart breaking. I hope and pray that T will have a relationship with DH. If she ever does have one with her bio dad, I'll be shocked! The kids as siblings will be fine.
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December 4th, 2012, 07:48 AM
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My mom and her husband, and my dad and his long term girl friend all come to the same family functions, including christmas.

I'll have that for my kids if their dads come around. I've offered for my ex husband, but he's a little self absorbed for that to happen.

L will seek him out. C and bob won't, already know that. I know that they'll be well rounded people who will do the best to love the word
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